(Closed) BM backed out… Should have trusted my gut.

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1763 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Atleast she let you know now instead of right before your wedding. I would leave the numbers uneven and ask your other friend to do a reading.

Post # 4
47449 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yes. it’s upsetting. But, she did give you adequate notice. I wouldn’t hold it against her that she told you on Facebook. Some people have a real hard time talking about their financial situation face to face.

Post # 5
444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

can you help pay for her dress? or even lend loan her the money.  If that’s the only reason she can’t be a bridesmaid, I think maybe you can spot her.  I think if anything, instead of getting her a gift, you give her the cashe to help her get the dress…that way you can still have her be a part of your big day. 🙂

Post # 6
7286 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

That was right of her to tell you now rather than later, and really weddings can cost a lot of money. I’m sure it was harder for her to say than it was for you to hear!

If you guys are close enough to where you can help her out, that is an option but it appears like your are upset b/c you feel like you are close but also indicated that you witheld from asking her right away. So maybe you really aren’t sure how yo feel?

Also bridal parties do NOT have to be even. Inviting people into your party b/c someone dropped out can be dicey-its pretty obvious how they got the offer 😉

Post # 7
2153 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

yeah, I wouldn’t take it personally. Just pick someone else. You can even swallow your pride and tell your other friend what happend and that you realize now who you can count on and who you can’t…and just ask her to be in your wedding. Some people bite off more than they can chew. Some people just aren’t good at this kind of stuff and should just learn to say no when asked for favors.


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