Post # 1
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Busy bee
Irritated beyond words Future Sister-In-Law backed out because of financial reasons and aslo will not be at the wedding also Fiance nephew will not be able to be in the wedding either! she knew since the beginning where it was going to be so she shouldnt have accepted the role of BM!! so 2 down! I dont know if I should add because I really wanted 3 but I dont want to have just anyone in my wedding. she is sooooo on my sh* t list!
Post # 3
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Helper bee
Is your wedding destination? Why will she not be able to attend at all?
Post # 4
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Busy bee
Yes destinaton and she will not be attending at all because of money also.
Post # 5
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Worker bee
Aww…Sorry you have been put in this situation. Are you having a DW? Maybe Future Sister-In-Law really just doesn’t have the money to do a Destination Wedding. This economy is tough and she may have been planning on receiving an extra source of income that hasn’t come through (i.e.taxes). Additionally, its good that she has told you now since you are still a few months out (so its not exactly last minute). I don’t think you necessarily have to fill her “spot”. Just keep who you already have!
Post # 6
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Honey bee
I agree, right now, money is hard on anyone. She may have been really excited and thought she’d be able to scrounge the money together but now she can’t. Who knows, maybe a medical bill or something in the house broke, etc… there’s so many things that can take our “few pennies” leftover.
I would be supportive and tell her you really regret she can’t come but that you understand. I wouldn’t put her on a “[email protected] List.”
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
Im sorry to hear that. I do understand how she wouldnt be able to make it because of finances though. Would your future in laws be able to help her out or would you and your Fiance if you really want her they? Maybe you can offer to chip in on the cost of the flight and see if she can share a room with other family members that are going.
If you have another good friend you would like to be a part of your wedding, its not too late to ask but Id only do that if there were someone you really want, not just to fill a spot.
Post # 8
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Busy bee
@KLP2010 I know what her financial situation is its not really a somber story at all she just spread her self too thin money wise shes taking a trip right before our weddind as I knew before I asked her to be in it.
@naangel55 I doubt her parents would help and I did want her there but I dont think bad enough to help accommodate her when I have my plate full as is. I feel if she really wanted to be there she would have asked Future Brother-In-Law who is also in the wedding (FI brother) to split the cost of a room. I understand not filling the spot thats what i did not want to do but now none from my FI’s family is on my side (BM) and I dont want them to fell as though im asking because one is gone.
Post # 9
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Helper bee
that’s a shame. will anyone in the family pay for her? it seems if it’s that important to you, you might be able to find funding?
sorry to hear about this. what a bummer! hope it works out.
Post # 10
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Busy bee
@kcasam: Thank you it is a bummer I think what gets me too is she did not tell me but called my Fiance yes i know its her brother but I would have felt better if she would have told me it just feels like it was a “can you relay the message” kinda thing.