Post # 1
For those of you who did not require pro hair and makeup for your bridal party, did you offer to make a professional available if they wanted help? Or did you just let them handle things on their own?
Here’s my deal – any advice?
I don’t care about my BMs having anything professionally done. I trust them all to make themselves look nice, and sincerely don’t care how they wear their hair.
I am getting my hair and makeup done professionally and thought it would be nice to offer their services to the BMs if they’d prefer help…however, they would need to pay.
All of the best people in town are booked or almost booked solid for my wedding day (this is the one thing I procrastinated) so I need to grab whatever appointment I can get for myself, quickly! To find someone who can handle more people, I’ll probably have to shop around quite a bit and I’m not sure they’d be as good.
Post # 3
@marilen: I’m not requiring my girls have anything professionally done if they didn’t want to. I have asked all my BMs ahead of time if they would like to get it done, and made sure to let them know that this would be a cost they’d take on themselves if they wanted it. Once i had the final number of girls who did/didn’t want professional services i found a team that would come to the hotel we’re getting ready at and do everything there.
but if you’re dealing with limited appointments then I think it’s probably okay to let your girls figure out the logistics themselves 🙂 they may even prefer to use their own hair stylist than one they’ve never met before
Post # 4
i didn’t require professional hair and makeup for my girls.
i WAS going to have my makeup done by my brother’s girlfriend at the time who is a makeup artist, so that was an option for them if they wanted it, but when she and my brother broke up 2 months before my wedding i decided to just do my own and my girls all did their own too (which they had all planned on doing anyway).
2 of my girls and i all did our own hair and one girl had her’s professionally done. i recommended a salon, but whether she went there or not was totally up to her.
so yeah, i’d just let them work it out themselves.
Post # 5
I’m not requiring my girls to get their hair/makeup done, nor am I paying for it. However, I am getting ready at my ceremony site and I am having a stylist come out and do my hair and makeup there. I offered to arrange for any of my wedding party get their hair and/or makeup done by her (and her assistants). If they want to do that, that’s great. If they want to do their own hair and/or makeup, that’s great. If they want to go to their own salon, you guessed it, also great. But I felt it was nice to offer to arrange for them to get it done on site, so I did. And all 4 of them are going to get theirs done on site with me.
Post # 6
@marilen: I told my girls I was fine either way, but if they were interested in hair and/or makeup to give me a heads up so that I can make sure we have enough stylists to accomodate (as of now, including FI’s aunt, mom, and my step mom) we have about 12 people getting hair/makeup done…so we need multiple of each to accomodate such a big group) They are all paying for themselves (I’m paying for me, my mom and FMIL) so of course it was completely optional…I sent them the link and the prices, and we just went from there. If you are going to a salon, you can let them book themselves, but if the hair/mu artist is coming to you, if is probably easier to book it for them, so that they know how much time to set aside for your event.
Post # 7
I didnt care about how they did their hair and makeup either, but I ended up asking my BM’s if they would want their hair and makeup professionally done or if they wanted to do it themselves. Two of four said that they would want to get their hair and makeup done and would get it done before the wedding any way at a local salon, the other two were indifferent but if I was to hire a pro they wouldnt mind but its up to me. I figured since I was getting mine done, I would have theirs done too, so as part of their gift I paid for hair and makeup. I was on a budget too, but I managed to find two great ppl for a good price online. If you want to do it, try seaching locally online, once you find someone ask your BMs what they prefer, the price, and go from there. Good luck!
Post # 8
I would be worried that they would feel like they had to pay if I offered. As with any wedding thing, I only offer what I can afford to give them. In my case I paid for my ladies to get their hair done and let them choose the style. They did their own make-up.
Post # 9
Yes, that is the awkward part, saying, “I’m offering this opportunity…but you have to pay!” We are all in our late 30s and so a couple of my bridesmaids have already said proactively, “Don’t even think about paying for us to get stuff done…that’s ridiculous.”
Post # 10
@marilen: I asked the ladies what they wanted, and I was actually pretty surprised that they all wanted pro hair and makeup. I booked someone who could accomodate all of us, which definitely did limit my options (especially since I’m paying…).
I did mention to my Maid/Matron of Honor that I was frustrated by how hard it was to find someone at a reasonable price point, and she said the maids would be happy to pay their own way if that would make it easier. I think BMs in my social circle expect to pay for themselves, so if your group is like mine, I wouldn’t worry too much.
Post # 11
Thank you, everyone. So helpful as usual! Since I’m cutting it close and getting married in our busiest season, I think I’ll book my own appointments ASAP to make sure I don’t miss out on getting someone good. I’ll see what their availability is to do the BMs, too. Then I’ll then survey the BMs individually to learn their preferences and add appointments from there.
I have a feeling my matron of honor may be the only one to want help since she’s the only one coming from out of town, and if so I’ll pay for her.
I feel cheap not paying, but we’re all in our late 30s and the BMs know we’re paying for the wedding on our own…so a couple have already said things like, “Don’t try to pay. That’s our deal.”
Post # 12
I asked them & then made the arrangements. I am planning on paying for everyone so hopefully they will be pleasantly surprised.
Post # 13
@marilen: I’m not requiring them to do it but I am handling the logistics for those interested.
Since you procrastinated and they can’t get booked in with your salon or provider, I’d leave it up to them. Kind of a crappy way to do it since they’ll be all over town with different schedules but if they want the services, I guess it’s up to them now.
Post # 14
I admitted I dropped the ball (the only thing I’ve procrastinated in the whole wedding) and am trying to arrive at the best arrrangement possible, so I’m not sure what your self-righteous tone is designed to achieve.
Post # 15
@marilen: I am having my girls pay for their own hair and makeup. I was 100% AGAINST doing that, but I got an incredible deal and I m also paying $500 for their hair and makeup on top of what they are chipping in….
Its going to be awesome though, cant wait!
Post # 16
I think you read WAAAAAAAAAAY too much into what I was saying. I concurred that it wasn’t ideal but at this point, it’s up to them.