(Closed) BM bitter that she's not M(atron)OH

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Hidden Acres

Sounds like your SIL is either just a being a brat, or perhaps she feels a little left out since everyone else has an ‘honor’ title. Has she always acted in dramatic fashion or is this a one-time thing? I agree that I wouldn’t have been impressed with her behavior that close to the wedding either. Some things you need to just need to put your big girl panties on and deal with. 


I have several best friends (from childhood, HS, and college) that I’ve asked to be in my wedding but they’ve known from the word “go” that my sister was going to be my Matron OH and the rest of them would be BM. If they have an issue with it, they’ve wisely kept it to themselves. I have zero tolerance for grown women acting like “how come SHE gets to be the XYZ and *I* have to be a lowly 123.” 

Post # 4
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Hidden Acres

Gotta love bratty 30-somethings…we outgrew the playground a LONG time ago…or at least we should have! If everyone knew you were having a small bridal party, then she shouldn’t be saying anything. She should be happy to be there and support you, not pout because she doesn’t have an official job title. If she’s so unhappy you could just tell her you don’t need her. 

Post # 5
7200 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

That is so stupid of her- I mean really, who cares? It’s your sister that is MOH- not some random person off the street!

Post # 6
45647 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Kacie209:  Sounds like she is not mature enough to be a BM, much less an MOH. It was inappropriate of her to be venting about this to other people, and in your company. If she can’t accept that your sister is closer to you than she is, this girl has problems.

Post # 8
5708 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Just ignore it.  It was impolite of her to bring it up.

Post # 9
1507 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Kacie209:  It’s your freaking sister!!  What a brat.  I had a similar situation, but all of my bridal party were friends – don’t have any sisters.  One BM thought she should be MOH and called me out on it.  Awkward to say the least.

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