(Closed) BM Breakdown

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2640 posts
Sugar bee

Wow, I’m sorry.  I don’t think at 23, she can blame much on immaturity.  (Although it might be accurate.)  Can you think of something that might have happened between the two of you?  Is it really just that she’d feel uncomfortable?  Perhaps it’s the money commitment.  But it doesn’t make sense why she’d just skip the entire wedding.  Maybe she feels that she can’t “show her face” since she backed out.

Perhaps you can talk to her, when you feel calmer about the situatuion.  Maybe you’ll get to the bottom of it.  And she will at least come to the wedding.  It’s hard to figure some people out.  Maybe she’s just an awkward person.  If she’s really shy, not very confident, particularly around others, that might explain why she feels overwhelmed being in a wedding with strangers, and doesn’t feel like she could tell you she’s backing out.  Some people avoid conflict at all costs, even if it makes matters worse. 

Other than that, I don’t know.  But keep us posted.  Good luck.

Post # 5
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I am so sorry that this is happening to you.  I wouldn’t trust her anymore, either… So she expected you to find out through her mother?  Grrr..

Post # 6
194 posts
Blushing bee

Wow…i guess just try to blow it off for awhile, and then when you’ve cooled down just casually ask her what happened when you two are alone and she doesn’t have Future Mother-In-Law to talk for her. Then go from there. I would’nt try to make a big dilemma about it though, just for the worrying of the drift it could cause for you and the FIL’s. Been there done that! Lol…but you are very mature for handling it the way you have. Best of Luck.

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