(Closed) BM called me a bridezilla, I feel awful

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

It sounds like whatever it is that you’re doing to piss them off, you don’t realize it. You also have apologized and feel awful, which is another good sign that you’re not really a bridezilla.

You may be micro-managing a bit. You probably don’t realize it at the time, but what you see as helpful suggestions may come across as being bossy and controlling. You tried to be laid back and let them choose their own dresses, but I think you failed at laid back. You tried to be helpful by suggesting the help of a Bridesmaid or Best Man, but that wasn’t your job! Let them be!

That being said, I know you don’t mean any harm. You really are just trying to help. And that’s what you should tell your bridesmaids. And then let them do their jobs.

Post # 3
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Everyone is just stressed out, just like you are.  So, this is what I will do:

Bachelorette Party- Let the 6 of them plan it and be done w/ it.  They need to get along and stop all the squabbling.  You don’t need the extra stress.

Bridesmaid or Best Man Dresses- Your idea was a great compromise since you could’ve had them buy those really ugly Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses that no wants to wear.  Sorry, if they were offended but you need to see the dresses to ensure it matches your wedding vision.  If they have a problem, you can pick out the dress you want them to wear regardless if they like it.  Its not your Bridesmaid or Best Man wedding so they need to suck it up.

Don’t let them get to you.  Maybe you are or maybe your not being a Bridezilla but when you have all the stresses of planning a wedding, you get nutty sometimes.  Hell, I’m planning an event for only 50ppl and I’ve had my crying indecisive spells.  Even my guy friends are shocked how girly I’ve because of the wedding planning.   Its like I’m in a trance and even I can’t wait til its over. 

Just tell everyone that your sorry for any Bridezilla moments and you’ll be more than thrilled when you and your beau will finally be married.



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