(Closed) BM coming very late to wedding

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’m so sorry that you are going through this and I wish I had some ingenious plan that would fix everything but I don’t. πŸ™

Maybe, to make yourself feel better, you can think about all the things that have gone right so far and all the people who will be there for the wedding pictures. Usually sitting down and listing what we are grateful for can be a great mood improver, at least, it usually is for me.

Post # 4
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406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Oh no. That’s such a bummer. When I’m in a wedding I set aside the whole day of the wedding and the whole day before Not that everyone needs to do it that way; it just works for me. What time does your ceremony start? Will she be able to be ready in time? Also do you know how often the LSATs are offered in yoir area? I dont think that its a once a year type test in my area. Maybe you can encourage her to reschedule, if you know its possible. Hope it works out!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think if this is the first thing that has gone wrong you are very lucky!

And I’m sorry but just as your wedding day is important to you her LSAT should be just as important to her right now. You can’t really control dates of those exams.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

That seems odd to me that she would have to take the test on that certain day as I know they’re offered several times throughout the year. However, if she’s already paid for the test, she would be out all that money if she rescheduled now.

I guess I would just go with what PPs said and be thankful that this is the only thing that went wrong for your wedding. My MOH’s flight ended up getting delayed due to weather for our wedding, and she didn’t make it in town until about an hour before the wedding. Her dress was wrinkled in our pictures because she had to literally rush to the church and she missed getting ready with us, but I just kept reminding myself that what mattered was that Darling Husband and I were tying the knot, not that everything with our bridal party ran smoothly.

I totally understand you being upset, but keep things in perspective. πŸ™‚ *HUGS*

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@vintagemodernbride: I think it’s totally understandable that you were upset, but I think your positive attitude is great! It sounds like your Bridesmaid or Best Man tried to plan things out in advance but unfortunately things didn’t go as planned. πŸ™

Post # 10
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5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think that your reaction is normal. Of course you want her to bet there, and it sucks that she isnt going to be in some of the pictures. But I think  you have a really good outlook on the whole thing. If this is the worste thing that happens surrounding your wedding it will be just fine!! She will be there, and even though late is annoying everything will work out.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

the timing really, really sucks. if she’s applying to law school this year, she really does need to take the exam asap rather than waiting until april, so it’s great that you’re being understanding about that. of course it’s upsetting, but i think the best thing to do is just take some deep breaths and remember it’s out of your control. if she doesn’t make it on time, sucks for her, but what’s important is that you’re getting married (yay!!) and she’ll be there as soon as she can.

Post # 12
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266 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Sadly I can’t see how she could be a bridesmaid.

Post # 13
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1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@WILLIAKELLLB: I agree. I orginally asked my cousin to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, but asked her to step down because she was not involved in any wedding activities. I understand she has to study because the LSAT is a very important test, but if she agreed to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man she had to understand she had obligations to you as well.

I also think your cousin should have called you before yesterday to talk about the scheduling issue.

Post # 14
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5183 posts
Bee Keeper

-WOah you had 5 showers?! anywho, yea.. cut her some slack.. you obviously know it is very important.. I am pretty sure the LSAT is like the MCAT, you dont “not pass” you are allowed to take it more than once (MCAT is 2 times only) to get into Law school.. so if her scores were low and she needed to retake at a specific date to get in to school at a certain date then it is totally understandable. Just have her show up when she can.. have pics of her when she gets there. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

So the LSAT is offered in June, October, December, and February (not April).  It’s unfortunate she didn’t take it in October, the “standard” time.  [ETA: I see she did take it earlier but didn’t do well.]  June is generally considered early while December is late because you can’t really apply early to law schools and get the edge on the competition that way.  (You also don’t know how well you did to help guide you in picking appropriate schools, and apply blind.)  That said, February is really too late to take it to apply for school starting in 2012.  She’s stuck with that date.  (ETA: Btw, it’s also not a “pass/fail” type test…she may not have done as well as she liked, but she didn’t “fail” it.  Most schools will also average scores, so she should make sure to study as hard as she can for the retake.)

Next, I’m sorry to inform you, but the LSAT is likely not going to end on time at 1:30.  Mine ended late, maybe 2PM?  There’s just delays in giving test information, starting, etc. so it doesn’t always end as planned.  Please warn her to be prepared about that.

Finally, I absolutely think she can get ready in the car.  It sucks she won’t be there for the getting ready part.  Maybe go over the wedding ceremony with her beforehand (like, soon, before she gets wrapped up in the LSAT, and finals if she’s a student) so she knows what to expect?  And try to rearrange to do bridesmaid pics after the ceremony.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper

I can definitely see how this can be upsetting, but I really do think you have a fab attitude about it. Its great to see a bride who is willing to be flexible. I’m sure in the end it will all work out. 

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