Post # 1
**Warning major vent** OK two weeks out until my wedding and the b*tch decides to get a boob job, next week! How completely selfish is that. I am so angry and am at the point that I do not what her at my wedding or as a friend. Not sure what to do- just makes me mad I gave her an out over a year ago (complained of money- always being a bridesmaid etc.), sister Maid/Matron of Honor gave her the option 6 months ago…I just don’t get these girls that are so completely obvious to the word friendship… Weddings truly help you see who your true friends are!
Post # 3
She will probably still be wearing her bandages and be uncomfortable. Shouldn’t prevent her from being a bridesmaid.
Post # 4
Why is she in your party when you call her a “b*tch”? People’s lives don’t stop just because you’re getting married. I’m sorry but there’s nothing you can do. You can either let it go or you bottle it up, and let it eat at you. The 2nd isn’t healthy.
Post # 5
@JoJo Bananas: true too bad the dress will not fit her after the upgrade.
Post # 6
@scgrl: Well, that is her dilemma. You are not the one who won’t fit and look weird. If she has any common sense she will figure it out. There’s no point in you worrying about it because there is very little you can do about it.
Post # 7
How is she a b*tch?? I know as brides we feel like our weddings are really important and our lives revolve around them sometimes, but other people’s don’t (even people in the bridal party). She in entitled to live her life and do what she wants, without having to plan around your wedding. I’m sure she isn’t doing it intentionally to hurt you (I still don’t understand how her boob job is affecting you that much?) and yes she will be sore but she will just have to deal with it.
Post # 9
Does she think she’ll have insta-boobs? Girl is going to be S-O-R-E and swollen, and not in the mood for dancing. But — let it go. Not your problem. And if her dress doesn’t fit… her problem.
Post # 10
agreed. it’s her problem. don’t worry about it. if it’s really the day of your wedding and she’s like, “oops I cant fit into my dress,” THEN you can be like, “um, well, maybe you shouldn’t be in my wedding.”
ok, I know, that’s not a very helpful solution…
Post # 11
@beekiss: @Miss Pinup: I agree. To almost everyone else your wedding is just another day that ends in y. If you want to end your friendship over this then do it, but I think you are over reacting.
Post # 12
I don’t know guys its not like she couldn’t have waited until the week after the wedding or do it like three weeks before. I would be frustrated especially by someone that had been complaining about money and suddenly has tons of money for elective surgery. It’s just a vent… I would need to vent too.
Post # 13
She is going to regret that when he boobs look all weird and square and up to her neck in all of the pictures. I’ve had a few friends get them recently (including a Bridesmaid or Best Man but hers are settled and pretty now) and they looks strange for a while- I called said Bridesmaid or Best Man ‘sponge bob square boob’ for about 2 weeks after she got them. Don’t be mad about it… there’s nothing to be upset about on your end, she can still perform all of her duties- she’s going to be the one with weirdo looking painful boobs in her Bridesmaid or Best Man dress
ETA: she went from a AA to a large B and her dress still fits her (and we didn’t plan for the boob job when we ordered them many months ago) so don’t worry, everything will work out
Post # 14
It sounds like it’s been an ongoing problem. Yea… she definitely could have waited, especially since you made it sound like this wasn’t “planned”
I would definitely NOT stress out about it… and quite simple if she cannot properly fit into her dress then she can’t stand in the wedding. That’s what she chose.
Until that day though cross your fingers and give her the benefit of the doubt in quick healing so that she can still do what she needs to.
Post # 15
Yeah, her timing sucks. I get what everyone is saying that “not everyone is that concerned about your wedding” but honestly? Her timing DOES suck and it does come off as stupid. Not selfish, per se, or bitchy…but stupid. She’s making her own bed though…or rather, bandage party. Just let it play out – she’ll either show and be uncomfortable or use it as an excuse and then she won’t be there. Either way, not your problem or going to affect you that much. It’s her missing out on something or her looking like an idiot – not you. 🙂 Just enjoy your wedding. Let her enjoy her upgrade or whatever, no matter how strange her timing is. (And I also lol’d that she can afford elective breast surgery but complains about buying a dress or whatever to be in a wedding – really?)
Post # 16
OP, its a bad decision on her part. If you have pointed out all the negatives (how she won’t be able to movez, dance and have a good time, how it may make her dress fit weird, and how odd she will look in pictures) and she still wants to go through with it, I would let her and just focus on having a good time at your wedding.