Post # 1
I am between two dresses.
1. Unique dress that is more my style , glamorous, and cool. :140 dollars. Anyone with good fashion taste has told me that its gorgeous
2. plain tube top bridesmaid dress: 110 dollars
My bridesmaids are for the most part very natural beauties. I am more into glamour and glitter and sparkles. 5 of the 7 bridesmaids prefer the second dress, which is very boring and plain. The two other bridesmaids are very fashionable and they said the first one is by far more interesting and there is no competition.
I am torn what to do. in one respect, yes it is my wedding, but the BMs are all students, are all paying for their own dress, and they like the “boring” one. Should I go with my heart or take one for the team and have my BMs be happy with the style and the price.
I think i’ll let them pick the “boring” one, im just not sure if i should do that. any feedback would be appreciated !
Post # 3
Let them pick the “boring” one as long as it isnt ugly. I had the same problem with my BMs. I’m very into hair, makeup, fashion…..them not so much. I’m
not in love with what they pickes but I figured I didnt HATE it so oh well.
Post # 4
Can you post pictures of them? I sort of want to say go with the one you love but I don’t really want to without knowing what it looks like.
Post # 5
All my bridesmaids liked the most boring dresses too. I said screw it, it’s my wedding, you’re wearing the blingy one. In my case they were basically the same price. The boring ones just wouldn’t have fit in with the theme of my wedding.
Post # 6
Pick the dress you like. You feel the need to appease them too (I felt like that too) but really it’s your wedding and you have to like the dress too. You describe the dress as “boring” so that doesn’t sound like a dress you like too much or would want to have in your wedding. Also $140 is a reasonable price for a bridesmaids dress and it’s not much more than the “boring” dress. I have different tastes than my bridesmaids too and took their input but vetoed any I really didn’t like. In the end they each chose a different dress (same fabric, color) but they were also dresses that I had said I liked too. I wouldn’t want them picking a dress I didn’t also like. Don’t feel bad! It’s your wedding and you’re going to have those pictures forever… haha.
Post # 7
pictures please? I just want to see them!!
But i’d say its your day, do what you want.. The price difference isn’t huge.. I ultimatley let my girls pick there own style dresses (in matching color and material) but they are all wearing shoes that they don’t care for (they are coral heels, I know they wll never wear them again.. im the only girly girl into pink/coral) but I didn’t feel bad since they got an awesome price on there dresses and picked what they want.. Hey its my day.
Post # 8
1. my favorite blingy one, bling on top and long elegant sash down the back
2. the boring one. its by no means ugly, no way! but it’s just to me just an average dress.
Post # 9
please keep in mind, that all my bms are students and do not have a lot of money. this is why i have reservations on making htem pay 140 (and with alterations it will be 170).
Im still a bit resentful for having to spend 180 (with alterations) on a hideous dress for my friends wedding so i dont want them to feel that same way
Post # 10
Yeah definitely go with number one. It’s really pretty actually and honestly $140 isn’t unreasonable at all for a bridesmaid dress. You aren’t going to please everyone so you might as well just please the 2 girls who like the dress you want!
Post # 11
oops sorry…I like the simplicity of the second one lol…or is it just I love the baby pink? The first one is lovely too. x
Post # 12
I like both, though I understand why you prefer the first.
Could you find a way to add something to the second dress, so it’s more to your ‘blingy’ tastes?
Or if money is an issue for your BM’s, perhaps you could offer to pay the extra $30 for the dress you love?
Post # 13
1st one for sure! I think it’s less “bridesmaid-y” and therefore more fun, has more personality, and is more likely to be reworn (by the girls who like it). unless the girls who like the second one are going to pay to have it shortened post-wedding, i don’t see it ever being reworn. there’s probably more resale potential in the second one though bc it is a more standard bridesmaid dress.
Post # 14
The second one is more elegant, less likely to look dated in a few years, and gives you a lot more choices in accessories. Plus that first one won’t work too well on a busty bridesmaid. I think you’ll be happier in the long run with the second.
Post # 15
I think the second one is really pretty and you can add a blingy belt to it! I am like you and I love bling and different. Adding a blingy belt will amp it up!
Post # 16
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I like your favorite one as well. Maybe you could offer to pay for part of the dress for them so that they don’t feel it as much?