(Closed) BM drama and 8weeks to go *new to boards*

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

*hugs* I am sorry you have to go through all this stress!

I must say I did ask one of my bridesmaids to be a bridesmaid even though our friendship was rocky at that point, and it ended up turning out for the better. Although it is still tough with some of my friends who are in denial that I’m actually getting married and that I have to *move on* with my life (as you said).

I don’t want to tell you to do one thing or another, but I do think she is sly and that would make me uncomfortable. If she is really going to make you feel stressed and uncomfortable on your wedding day, then I would have a serious conversation with her and tell her why you feel she should not be a bridesmaid, but make sure it is a 2-way conversation so that she feels she has some say in the decision as well.

Good luck!

Post # 4
348 posts
Helper bee

Can you ask your other friend to be your bridesmaid as well, so that you feel that you have someone truly supportive in the wedding?  You don’t have to kick out the first friend, but that way you’d at least have the person you really want there as well.

Post # 5
2767 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

let her be a bridesmaid.  But then after the wedding I wouldn’t go out of your way to put effort into that relationship.  If you never see her again then fine, it sounds like she isn’t being a very good friend anyway.

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