(Closed) BM drama out of no where!

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Sounds like a possible misunderstanding? She obviously thinks you don’t really want her in the wedding for some reason. Maybe let things cool down for a few days, and then contact her again? 

Post # 4
345 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

have you said anything about her to a mutual friend that could have been fed back or mis interpreted? were you really close up until this point?

does seem really bizarre for someone to just do that for no reason

Post # 5
8879 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I’m sorry 🙁 That’s hurtful and down right rude. If she’s mad at you for something, she should at least have the “balls” to tell you why. Keep calling her, you deserve a reason.

Post # 6
11265 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

how strange?  there is obviously a reason why she would text you this and feel this way.  have you talked to the other bms to see if anything had been discussed?

Post # 7
2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Whoa, that would make me lose my mind. So abrupt it makes me think something must have happened.

That’s just causing stress that you don’t need. Unfortunately you will need to get a better answer before replacing her, and I would suggest you keep trying to talk to her, but let her know that if you don’t get an answer you will have to count her out based on that message. You can’t forge ahead with plans if you don’t know if she’s in or out.

That’s really too bad, and I doubt anything that happened would have warrented a bounce off like that. Sorry she did that to you. 🙁

*edit: one more thing, you may have to track her down in person to talk to her. Show up at her house, etc. I had to do that with one of my BM’s

Post # 8
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

I agree with a PP, maybe even dropping off a handwritten note at her house if you can’t get to see her in person. So weird for it to be totally out of nowhere, sounds like a misunderstanding! I’d be wary of going to the other Bridal Party members though, I don’t know any of your girls but could it be possible there was some kind of drama between them, and they got snarky to each other? I hate to think that, but I just wonder how she came to feel she was just a “spot” in line.

Post # 9
13951 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Wow, that’s crazy.  I agree with PPs – something must have happened.  That’s not the kind of reaction you get over a simple misunderstanding.  I would try to reach out to her to get coffee/dinner and meet in person to discuss what’s going on, or at the very least, send her a handwritten note if she refuses to meet with you.  Good luck!

Post # 12
2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@X0JLYNN03:  Crazy is as crazy does. She has given you a perfectly good reason for you to track her down in person and ask her wth is up!

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