(Closed) BM dress dilemma… What size to order??

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
754 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

Asking them to have themselves measured was good.  Letting them guess, not so much.  Be prepared for an uncomfortable conversation when you ask her about the size she chose.  Ask if it wouldn’t be too much of a problem, you would really like everyone to get measured by a professional to avoid any potential problems. 

Better safe than sorry!

Post # 4
236 posts
Helper bee

Perhaps you should e-mail her and let her know that you talked to a sales person and they said that the sizes are running an extra size smaller.  Perhaps she would want to get a size larger to be on the safe side.  Mention that another bridesmaid is doing the same (of course you don’t want to lie but at least one is probably ordering a size up).

Post # 5
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I actually had the same problem. I asked my BMs repeatedly to measure themselves and tell me their size. One Bridesmaid or Best Man told me that she regularly shops at Ann Taylor and knows 100% that she was a particular size. What ended up happening was the dress was way too small. I had to buy her another dress. (Keep in mind that I am already paying for all my BM’s dresses in the first place.) =(

I think its a good idea to say that everyone is getting a few sizes larger than their typical size to be safe. That way she won’t feel like you are singling her out for her weight.

Post # 6
75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

You are totally right, bridal/BM dresses run 2-3 (sometimes 4) times bigger than a persons street size.  What a way to make you feel fat on your big day huh? 

Ask them to have someone else measure them and to send you the measurements, as opposed then sending you the size they think they are.  People don’t ususally take good measurements on themselves, as you’re bending and crunching or what not. 

My girls actually just ordered their dresses this past Saturday and after measuring their bust (with their bra on), waist (natural waist), and hips (the widest part), they should take the largest size from the measurement chart.

Meaning if according to the chart their bust is a 6, their waist is a 4, and their hips are an 8, go for the size 8.  If someone is on the fence between sizes, go for the larger one.  You can always tailor a dress to go smaller, but no way no how can you go bigger without ordering another dress.

P.S. part of the reason you have to order the dresses all at once is so that all your dresses come from the same dye lot of fabric.


Post # 7
179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

A little white lie – you could tell her you got the right size and htey sent a size higher or we ordered all size 10s or something and now we need to adjust them by tailoring. I don’t know that’s a tough situation.

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