(Closed) BM dress issue…and I’m the BM!

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

wear a cami underneath of the same color and cover the opening? I really don’t know lol

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

I like Jenny’s idea. I was going to suggest a shawl or pashmina but I don’t think that would suit the dress at all. Maybe take the dress to an underwear shop and beg for their help? There are bras available that meet very low in the back. Otherwise I’d talk to the bride – if she chose the dress then she should help fix the problem 🙂

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Very beautiful dress.

I am a double D, so I can relate. Is there any way that you could talk to the bride to see if it would be possible for you to sew up the seam on the back. Just explain to her that you need more support and unless she wants your bra to show, that is the only option you can think of. You would still have the consistency, at least in my opinion.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I would just sew the back together. you’ll stil have the same “look” as the other girls, but you’ll be able to wear your bra and be much more comfortable.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Just do it and apologize later LOL

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Would a skin colored cami cover the bra without showing?  Wow, this is a tough one.  Maybe a good lingere store would have “better quality” stick-ons?

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

A silk camicole would be fine you can find one with the right coverage to work with the style of the dress. I would either sew up the back or have a seamstress add a piece of light weight material in same color underneath it. I once had to add a piece of wide satin ribbon behind the laces in a lace-up bridesmaids dress.

***Oh, I just had another idea. What if you added a small hook that kept the back pulled closed, specifically in the spot where the bra is? I think that might work to conceal the bra but maintain an open look.

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Girl, I feel your pain. Also, with D’s, the issue is more than just covering up your nips, it’s the lack of support that would bother me the most! Nobody wants to look like they have udders, haha.

The clear bras are a good idea; i’ve never seen those before! Another idea is to wear a regular, nude colored t-shirt bra you have and have the dress clasp together in the back with the opening is. You could use those little button snaps and yes, it’ll look like an 8 instead of an 0, shapewise, but what can you do? Surely the bride will understand.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think finding a bra that gives you the support you need and putting a couple of stitches or snaps in the opening to hide the strap (even if it’s clear, it’ll show a little) is probably the best option.

I’m a modest B-cup and learned a lot about the pitfalls of dress fitting for bustier girls while Bridesmaid or Best Man dress shopping. It might be that your issues just never occurred to the bride, so it would help to talk to her. I’ll bet she’s willing to sacrifice a little conformity to make sure your dress is comfortable and not obscene.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

Well I don’t have an experience being a D, but I have a bustier type bra, I wear with strapless stuff.  And it claps really far down, like at the small of my back.  Can you look for something like that?

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