(Closed) BM dress shopping mother problems

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1890 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’d invite none of the mothers (except yours, since you already said she can come).  When I took my BMs shopping for a dress, it was just me and them, and we found something gorgeous that they all loved.  Isn’t it more about what you want and what they look good in than what your FI’s mom/stepmom want?

Post # 4
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If you invite your mom and not his, they’re going to find out and you’re going to hear about it.  And not in a good way.  I’d offer it to them both and tell them that the other has been invited and let them decide how to handle it.

Post # 5
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

I say invite them both and let them decided.  If they want to exclude themselves because they can’t be adults and be civil for a few hours then that’s their own fault.

Post # 6
5778 posts
Bee Keeper

Do the sisters have the same Mother and one prefers the SM over her own Mom? I wouldn’t get in the middle of that one if I were you (and if that’s the case).


Post # 8
714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Jenniferk6:  I think I would give the Mom right of first refusal.  Ask her if she wants to come and if she says no, then invite the step mother.  The Mother (assuming she raised her son) is due all the rights and priviliges of MOG and the stepmother is not, so I’d use that as your guide.  There are plenty of other ways you can involve and include the stepmother. 

I don’t envy you being in this position though!  Good luck!

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