(Closed) BM dropped out, seems fishy to me.

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

This isn’t your wedding, correct?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

@Liss13:  If you’re not the bride, it’s not your problem. TBH, it sounds like you’re being nosy.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Maybe she’s having problems with the family there in MD and doesn’t want to see them? 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

The only person who can tell you what is going on is the girl that dropped out.  Things happen..people drop out of weddings.  I would just let it go..and if the girl who dropped out wants to tell the bride her reasons, she will.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

@Liss13:  It’s not your job to find an answer, though. You’ll never find the true answer by speculating, so unless you’re planning on confronting the drop-out Bridesmaid or Best Man personally (which would be weird because it’s none of your business), I’d suggest you just be a good listener to the bride.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

This is none of your business. What goes on in someone’s family life is their business, and unless you or the bride are a part of that family, it does not pertain to you.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Liss13:  Is “family problems” code for “marriage/relationship” problems, e.g.

* controlling bf won’t let her go

* major upheaval in relationship means she feels she needs to work on relationship 100%

* she’s pregnant (or has been pregnant and had a miscarriage)

EDIT: Or an issue with one of her children, if she has children. Certainly for me an issue with my children would be far more important than any wedding.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I don’t really think its fair to call you nosey, your friend is upset and youre trying to help her figure it out, no big deal. I think it really could be anything, my cousin dropped out of my wedding because her boyfriend decided he didn’t want her involved in a bridal shower and bachelorette party. The bride is the only one who can really ask why the bm dropped out. If I was her I’d just ask if everything was okay and what had happened? If she still doesn’t wanna talk about it, I’d just drop it.

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper

..why doesnt the bride, ask her friend directly?  honestly, she should leave it alone. but if shes that deavestated, then give it a rest for a week and revisit. but she should be more empathic that the Bridesmaid or Best Man clearly has something going on. all of our speculation is pointless.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper

Really? Even when a Bridesmaid or Best Man gives a reasonable excuse for dropping out that isn’t good enough? This is just ridiculous.

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