- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
okay ladies I hope none of you went through this but if you did… maybe someone can help me out.
I told my BMs that we were going to have a dress fitting this saturday last monday. I know it is only 5 days but, they were all within a 1 hour dirve, and I didn’t tell them so much as ask, “will this day work for you?” they all said yes so I made the plans and moved on.
so Thursday comes around and I call one of my maids to nail down plans for the weekend.. is she coming into the city a night early so we can have a girls night? will she meet us there sat. morning?
all the sudden she has something going on in the morning (much before our appt. time) and doesn’t know if she can make it since she can’t be there for the “going out” part. (which in my opinion was extra but whatever)
But rather than just making the decision I spent much of the next two days trying to nail down a real answer, half the time she didn’t answer her phone the other half the only answer I got was well I don;t know let me call you back. (I think she told me 4 times she would “call me back” and never did)
so now I am frustrated, hurt and kinda angry… so I called her ( which she of course didn’t answer so I left a voicemail), maybe used some stronger language than I do on an average day and told her to just make up her mind and tell me and to stop draggin me along with all the “I don’t know” (read: “I am waiting to see if this is the most fun option for that day so I can’t make a decision yet”) and that I had made he mind up for her and that she was no longer invited.
I didn’t tell her she isn’t a Bridesmaid or Best Man anymore, and I am not sure if that is really the amswer…we are friends that have never faught before. I haven’t talked to her since leaving her my rather harsh voicemail.
I don’t know what to do bees… I know I was harsh at the end there, and my mom says I am just being a drama queen, but honestly… that is no way to treat a friend.
what would you do if you were in my shoes?