- Take The Reins
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Been a rough weekend for me and wedding planning. I have 3 BM’s and my Maid/Matron of Honor, all of whom live in different cities, and all very busy with different things, family, university, busy vet practice. My Maid/Matron of Honor and I found the dresses way back in July on my one day in her city together dress shopping. All the BM’s agreed that it was a nice dress, and agreed they were happy with it.
I made some calls to find out where to purchase it (Impresisons dress, turns out if a salon doesn’t carry a certain “set” of dresses, they don’t have access to all the dresses in the collection). SO back in September I start making enquiries as to where to purchase. Turns out there is ONE shop in 2 provinces that have access to order them for us. I call the shop, find out the info, cost, when we have to order by, what info they require, deposit etc. Early October I pass on the info to the ladies, we have to order by end of January, the price etc. Mid december I sent out another email reminding them we had to have the measurements by end of January, some shoe samples, and a bit of other wedding info. January rolls around, I send out another email around the 7th of the month, asking for the measurements when they could, options on where to get them done, and when I need them by. I got 2 within the week, one is going today (she has been away on training for 2 weeks, so I expected it) However, my Maid/Matron of Honor is starting to concern me. She is in university finishing her science degree, so super busy and broke. I totally understand, and I told her I would cover the deposit for her until she had the money (about $100) and to be honest, I don’t really care if she pays me back at all, which I told her. Because the shop is close to her, she asked if she could go in there to be measured, to which I said yes of course. She has told me no less than 5 different times she is going in to be measured. I called the shop in early January to set up the file with all my info, the dress colour and style, payment info etc. so all she had to do was go in, take 15 mins and get measured. She was supposed to go this past friday, she had no school and wasn’t working. Instead she went for lunch and shopping with a friend and “just couldn’t make it in”, said she would go on her lunch break saturday. Didn’t go saturday, got too busy at work and only had time to run grab something quick for lunch. I texted her today to see when she could go as I want to get these ordered asap. She got a bit snippy, and said she had a busy week and was going away this weekend but she’d try to fit it in.
I am slightly hurt she is being so incredibly offhanded about this, and somewhat annoyed at her right now. She is broke, but can go out for lunch and shopping with her friend, spent New Years at a ski resort for 2 days, went to a movie last week, out for dinner twice. I am all for having time for yourself and doing something nice to relax, everyone deserves that, tight on cash or not. But I am getting a bit pissed that it’s such a hardship to go get her measurements taken, and I am paying for her deposit since she “can’t afford it”. I am trying really hard not to be a bitchy bride, but it’s getting harder and harder to be nice to everyone!
Sorry, not sure if I need advice or just to vent my frustrations, but I feel better getting it out there!