(Closed) BM FSIL drama

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I would be offended if I were her. If you just asked one Future Sister-In-Law that would be hard but because you went past the other Future Sister-In-Law to a more distant relative, it’s especially hurtful. I would include her in some way. 

Post # 6
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Yeah she would be pissed. And it wouldnt surprise me if FIL’s would be pissed too.

If you are asking one, you ask both. 

Post # 7
3126 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I would ask her too and either find another Groomsmen or have an uneven party.

Post # 8
9082 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

If it were me, and I knew I wasn’t close to you, I wouldn’t care.

I didn’t ask my SO’s sister to be in my wedding at all. She and I don’t have a relationship.


Post # 10
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

On one hand you shouldn’t have anyone whom you don’t want there, but you also want to trend lighly and not create a rift in the family. I don’t think it would be so bad if you picked one sister and another family member or friend of yours, but you picked his cousin over her and it makes it look like you either don’t like her and are purposely excluding her.

Post # 11
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I probably would have suggested asking older SIL about it before making any decisions. That’s one of the major pros of including someone from his side of the family – can help you navigate the “political” land mines.

Sounds like it’s a little late though.

Post # 13
1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m going to disagree with some PPs. If you only invited 2 of your sisters (and you have 4) I don’t really think that his second sister can be that upset (I mean if she is then you can point out you only had two of your own sisters). Besides, your BMs your choice, if you feel closer with the cousin- I think you did the right thing.

That being said, I would try to include the younger sister in some other way (maybe a reading or greeter or something)

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