Post # 1
I feel like I’m being pulled in 50 million directions when it comes to my bridesmaids. As soon as we got engaged I told my Fiance that wanted to pay for my girls( 4 Bridesmaid or Best Man,1 JBM, and I’m thinking my Step Mom and MIL) to get the hair done the day of and a mani/pedi the day before (if they don’t want it I’m not going to force it on them.) With the few people I have talked to about our plans half the responses were ” And you still plan to get your girls a gift? Wow aren’t you already doing a lot to start with?” and the other half is ” That’s it? Its your wedding YOU should pay for those things plus a gift.”. I figured on top of the hair/nails/toes I would get them something else but I never really thought about it. So what is proper here? What did you do for your girls or planning to do for your girls?
Forgot to add that depending on the price of the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses/alterations we are thinking of helping the girls out with the cost of the dress too. Maybe I’m over thinking this all.
Post # 3
I’m paying for my girls dresses and hair, most likely shoes as well. However, I’ll get them a small gift – I was thinking a bracelet that they won’t have to wear for the wedding. Perhaps you could get them a small necklace or some other jewellery. I’ve seen some very cute ones posted here on the bee that plays with the fact that they are there when you tie the knot:
Post # 4
@TMB47: (stalking you 🙂 )
I think what you’re doing is wonderful, and personally I don’t feel like you have to do more.
I am getting my girls their Day-Of jewlery, and i’m paying for their makeup (It’s only $50 a person), plus I’m taking them to get their nails done before hand.
I just had a budget, and that’s what I stuck with, whatever I can do with the amount of money I had per girl is what I am doing.
Post # 5
If they have offered to pay for anything, such as bridesmaid dresses, I would give them a gift, like an actual physical gift, such as a beautiful personalized necklace.
Post # 6
Anything you require/ask of them, minus their dress, you should pay for. Like if you say hair up and red nails… But if you are truly pampering them, allowing full choice of the outcome, the you can consider it a gift. A nice written note should be ok and then you are done.
But if you have specific requests then its not a gift. However, a nice piece of jewelry, monogrammed cosmetic bags, monogrammed jewelry bags, etc would be great.
I plan on paying for make-up and nails for my girls. I don’t think I’ll be specifying nail color & I’m definately not touching their hair… I trust them! I want them to feel themselves and pretty. I will be getting them a necklace or long earrings from a somewhat high end line & then a personalized bag of some kind.
Post # 7
I’d get them a small gift – you’ve already spent a lot of money, so nothing extravagant. A physical token is always appreciated. An inexpensive necklace, a wine glass, or even a cosmetic bag or nail polish!
Post # 8
Maybe just get them a small gift. I was in a wedding last year where the bride’s parents paid for everything. Our dresses, accommodations, etc. and they just got us a small scarf as our “gift”. It was totally fine because they paid for everything else and generous for the same reason.
Post # 9
I say do what makes you happy to do for them! I’m only having 2 girls stand for me (possible 3) and I am buying their dresses, doing the mani/pedi and getting a gift. They are on their own for their hair and accessories, mainly because I have NO sense of style for jewelry. I wear 2 rings, and hoop earrings and that is all.
Post # 10
@TMB47: to me, a “gift” from me to them to thank them for being in my wedding is something not wedding related at all. so their jewelry, hair appts, meni/pedis are not parrt of the gift. just me ensureing they look good on my big day 😉 LOL
Post # 11
Hair, pedis, whatever for the wedding pamperingis an awesome gesture (that we are doing also)but I think you need a physical gift also. skip the dress help…