(Closed) BM gift, am I doing too much or should i do more?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should I do more for my BM's?
    Yes! They deserve more of a gift : (12 votes)
    44 %
    No! You have done enough : (15 votes)
    56 %
  • Post # 3
    3039 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m paying for my girls dresses and hair, most likely shoes as well. However, I’ll get them a small gift – I was thinking a bracelet that they won’t have to wear for the wedding. Perhaps you could get them a small necklace or some other jewellery. I’ve seen some very cute ones posted here on the bee that plays with the fact that they are there when you tie the knot:



    Post # 4
    1846 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @TMB47:  (stalking you 🙂 )

    I think what you’re doing is wonderful, and personally I don’t feel like you have to do more.

    I am getting my girls their Day-Of jewlery, and i’m paying for their makeup (It’s only $50 a person), plus I’m taking them to get their nails done before hand.

    I just had a budget, and that’s what I stuck with, whatever I can do with the amount of money I had per girl is what I am doing.

    Post # 5
    6355 posts
    Bee Keeper

    If they have offered to pay for anything, such as bridesmaid dresses, I would give them a gift, like an actual physical gift, such as a beautiful personalized necklace.

    Post # 6
    2095 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Anything you require/ask of them, minus their dress, you should pay for. Like if you say hair up and red nails… But if you are truly pampering them, allowing full choice of the outcome, the you can consider it a gift. A nice written note should be ok and then you are done. 


    But if you have specific requests then its not a gift. However, a nice piece of jewelry, monogrammed cosmetic bags, monogrammed jewelry bags, etc would be great. 


    I plan on paying for make-up and nails for my girls. I don’t think I’ll be specifying nail color & I’m definately not touching their hair… I trust them! I want them to feel themselves and pretty.  I will be getting them a necklace or long earrings from a somewhat high end line & then a personalized bag of some kind. 

    Post # 7
    2055 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’d get them a small gift – you’ve already spent a lot of money, so nothing extravagant. A physical token is always appreciated.  An inexpensive necklace, a wine glass, or even a cosmetic bag or nail polish! 

    Post # 8
    3194 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Maybe just get them a small gift. I was in a wedding last year where the bride’s parents paid for everything. Our dresses, accommodations, etc. and they just got us a small scarf as our “gift”.  It was totally fine because they paid for everything else and generous for the same reason. 

    Post # 9
    397 posts
    Helper bee

    I say do what makes you happy to do for them!  I’m only having 2 girls stand for me (possible 3) and I am buying their dresses, doing the mani/pedi and getting a gift.  They are on their own for their hair and accessories, mainly because I have NO sense of style for jewelry.  I wear 2 rings, and hoop earrings and that is all.

    Post # 10
    1022 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @TMB47:  to me, a “gift” from me to them to thank them for being in my wedding is something not wedding related at all. so their jewelry, hair appts, meni/pedis are not parrt of the gift. just me ensureing they look good on my big day 😉 LOL

    Post # 11
    61 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Hair, pedis, whatever for the wedding pamperingis an awesome gesture (that we are doing also)but I think you need a physical gift also.  skip the dress help…

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