- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
This is mostly a vent, just a warning.
Some time ago, I picked up a couple high-quality, vintage silver and rhinestone bracelets at the flea market to give to my BMs to wear for the wedding. (Read: they were not cheap, price-wise or quality-wise.) Of course, I was keeping this a secret, because it’s supposed to be a surprise gift, no? Well, in the meantime, one of my BMs (the same one who had dress issues) informs me that she bought this “really cute” copper and green glass jewelry set for the wedding off eBay. Uh, great? I know how eBay works, and I know that (in most cases) she wouldn’t be able to return it unless it was defective; so, I didn’t say anything about the bracelets.
So, I’ve been scrambling around to find a replacement gift (for her, at least), and she mentions she’s worried about being cold at the reception, but she couldn’t find an appropriate sweater. I outright asked her if she would be interested in a pashmina, and what color. I was considering them anyway, so I figured it would be better to be straight-forward, than to risk having the bracelet incident again, right? So, she tells me she would like that and what color she’d like best. Yay! I have a replacement gift! …Right?
Wrong. She texts me about two days after that conversation to tell me that she found (and bought) the perfect sweater! *fumes* (I’m just glad I hadn’t ordered the pashmina yet!)
So now it’s even closer to the wedding, and I have no freakin’ idea what to get for her. I really don’t want to get her some “thing” to sit around – I want it to be useful. I’m tempted to just get her a gift card for somewhere and call it a day… but then I’d feel like I was “paying” her to be my Bridesmaid or Best Man.
My sister (MOH), on the other hand, was happy with the bracelet (I blabbed to her when I was complaining about the other Bridesmaid or Best Man – lol). Her only concern was that it might catch on her dress, since it has a lace overlay – a valid concern, but I’m not too worried, since it’s just for a few hours. I still want to get her something else, but again, I want it to be useful.
I should also mention that money is very tight right now. We recently moved and are getting married/going on our honeymoon in less than a month, and Fiance only recently realized he couldn’t afford it all, like he thought he could originally. So he asked (more like demanded) me to chip in. I don’t have a job, and my savings account is all the money I, personally, have. When I was last working (a low-paying job) and saving money, I hadn’t yet met Fiance and was not saving for a move/wedding/honeymoon, and was only half-heartedly saving for a “someday” return to school (which happened in January after my parents volunteered to pay for it), so there wasn’t a whole lot in there to start with. Of course, I did chip in what I could, and my parents have helped some as well, but my savings account has dwindled to a level that makes me a little nauseous to think about. (Basically, if anything happened to Fiance, I couldn’t even pay our next month’s rent.)
So not only do I have a time-crunch to get something, I have a money-crunch too. Honestly, I can’t afford to pay much more than $20 for each Bridesmaid or Best Man (thankfully there’s only two).
*sigh* I’m so over wedding planning. If we had eloped, we wouldn’t have Bridesmaid or Best Man gift drama or money issues!