Post # 1
I have 5 BMs and no Maid/Matron of Honor. Two of my girls organized my bach party and generally went above and beyond helping me with the wedding planning. The other three girls didn’t do so much to help due to a variety of circumstances. I’d like to get the two BMs gifts that reflect my appreciation for all their work, but worried my other girls might feel slighted. I’m getting everyone a personalized tote, bathrobe, jewellery and bath stuff, and thinking of getting the two BMs something extra in the $100-200 range. Would this be OK, or am I asking for trouble?
Post # 2
If you give it to them all together, at the same time, then yes. If you take each above and beyond lady out for a cup of coffee and give the extra gift then, I think you’re fine.
Post # 3
I agree with PP – just give the gift separately (maybe a few days before the other gifts?)
Post # 4
I think your plan is fine but I would give them the extra gifts privately.
Post # 5
I would not give the extras to your “above and beyond” bridesmaids at the same time as the others – especially since a $100-200 extra gift will stand out a LOT. Give the similar gifts to everyone at once, and the other gifts separately.
Post # 6
goblueca: Laurenplusalex: ms-tea: julies1949:
thank you ladies! I was thinking of giving them their separate gifts after rehersal dinner (privately of course) and then everyone gets their “same” gifts the next morning.