(Closed) (BM gifts) Half tomboys, half girly-girls. What to give?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
665 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t have Bridesmaid or Best Man but what kind of stuff do they like? One of my BFFs is a tomboy and she’s very into baseball so I would probably get her something along the lines of that. 

Sorry I don’t have more suggestions. But I would definitely think about the stuff your Bridesmaid or Best Man like or like to do that way it might make your gift giving easier.

Post # 4
2605 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I didn’t have any BMs, so i can’t speak from personal experience, but I’ve heard some great ideas on the ‘bee before and my favorite was to tailor BMs gifts for the girls. So, the cook got some new gadget and/or some nice olive oil or something and the gardener got new gloves, etc. etc. A variation of this was to give “home movie night” baskets–each one got 2-3 of DVDs of their favorite movies, plus the popcorn and goodies and all that. You can make it really fancy, or really low-key, depending on your budget.

THe other thing that most ladies seem to like is something like a massage (but you’d have to make sure everyone likes being touched) or cost-coverage for their hair/makeup.

Post # 5
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Just relax and as you get closer to your date, it’ll become really clear all by itself. Your other posts indicate you’ve not picked a venue yet; so picking bridal party gifts is putting the cart in front of the horse— even picking the bridal party might be a bit ahead of schedule at this point!

Relax and don’t get too far ahead of yourself!

Post # 7
9631 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I also think picking different gifts for each bridesmaid is a good idea, they will appreciate a personalized gift much more than a generic gift given to all of them

Post # 8
973 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If you know the women enough to know they are tomboys and still want them in your wedding, I hope you know what they like on an everyday basis… just get them something that fits them. 🙂  Even if they are not “girly” they are people and will appreciate a thoughtful gift.

Being a tomboy I once worked somewhere with several women who were “normal” and I often got odd gifts from my boss (who loved holidays) while everyone else got “normal” girl stuff (that they loved).  Even if it wasn’t something I “wanted” it was always something that tied into what she knew I liked and I was always touched by her thoughtfulness and picking something that wasn’t the normal “girl” gift that I would have just asked a friend “Hey, I got this… thing, you want it?”.

Some safe things: big fuzzy towels in their favorite color (who doesn’t like a good bath towel?).  Most tomboys I know, myself included like a little jewelry, just understated… what my dad calls “simple elegance”.  It’s often something we wouldn’t buy ourselves or even ask for, but can be worn for other occasions and means something because someone gave it to us.  Candles: most people I’ve known (even men) like, or will at least use candles – if you don’t know what scents they like bring it up in conversation, just ask, or just get unscented as some people are allergic and these days even if someone likes a scent most are so chemical ladden they can be allergic to the chemicals supposedly imitating the scent it’s supposed to be… if nothing else they will only use them in an emergency/power outage and think of you :).

Most tomboys have some “girl” in them it’s just hidden :), just ask my Fiance.  He jokes “there’s this little girl in there doing back flips!”… and there is… off in the corner.  But most of my friends are like “are you gonna wear a dress?  I can’t imagine you in a dress”. 

Again, from a tomboy the intent matters most.  If you at least make an effort to get us something useful/we like, we’re probably going to be really happy… because we often get “stuff” that’s not even our favorite animal/color/scent… just this weird stuff girls “should” like.  If I could tell you at least tried to get me something I would like, that alone would make me happy!

PS: wow, sorry for the essay, but I meant evey word!

Post # 9
1652 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Ditto what PP’s said about getting each of your BM’s something that fits her as an individual – but here’s a general idea, also:

What about flasks with cute images on them?  I am getting flasks for two of my sisters/BM’s from this Etsy shop:


The flasks are adorable, with all kinds of images on them, from geeky to retro to funny to trendy, and they can customize flasks using whatever kind of image you want.  I thought of this in response to your post because flasks are a pretty cool gift, and with these ones you can choose images that are more feminine or less feminine.

I received one flask already and am really happy with the quality.  I’m waiting on the other, which is a custom order I placed.  🙂

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