(Closed) bm gifts: Is it a faux pas for it to something they're using day-of?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would totally love that!  Sounds like a great gift.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t know about manners. But I know that in the weddings I’ve been in, I got a necklace to wear the day of for both. Also, for my wedding I gifted the girls jewelry (earrings and a bracelet) to wear the day of and a cover up for the cold weather photos.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would love that, and i would actually wear it again, since its my own name being monnogramed..

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

No I don’t think so. If I bride wanted to gift us shoes or something for her wedding that was saving us money I think it’s fine. That being said a robe with their names is typical gift for bridesmaid and I doubt anyone would complain.

They only times I think it would be annoying or  faux pas is if you and your fi names and wedding date were on it.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Most of the Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts I’ve gotten have been jewelry that I’ve worn the day-of (and then also later on) and I’m gifting my bridesmaids bracelets and fascinators. So, no, I definitely don’t think it’s bad manners. That sounds like a really cute gift too!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

The gifts sound fine except the monograms. Are all the girls married with their final monograms? I have so much monogrammed crap with my maiden name. Also- a lot of people don’t like monograms. The hangers are more for you than for them. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I got my BMs robes for the day of as well as their day-of jewelry, but… I also got them wristlets that are NOT for day of.. so a lil’ somethinsomethin for both.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m in the camp that says that anything to be used for YOUR wedding cannot be considered a gift unless it is to each individual’s taste and is something that the Bridesmaid or Best Man can use again.  So given that robes and slippers are pretty universal and can be used again, I say it’s lovely gift.  I might try and personalize each robe and slipper set to each Bridesmaid or Best Man though.  For example, I’m not very girly so if a bride bought me a pink robe with purple ruffles, I’d be disappointed, slighty disgusted, and would never wear it again.  On the same token, I would not get your super girly friend anything in camo.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m not crazy about the idea of giving BMs a gift that they have to use day-of.  It comes across as a gift for you, not them.  However, I’m only speaking from my own experience getting a hideous necklace that I had to wear with my Bridesmaid or Best Man dress as a “gift” and hating every second of it. lol

Made a vow that I wouldn’t do that for my girls. So, my opinion is for sure biased. I don’t think its necessarily bad “etiquette” or that there are any rules against it…probably just personal preference.

If you think the girls will like the robes and get use out of them moving forward, then it sounds fine.  I’m not sure that the name hangers would be quite as valuable (once you have something hanging in your closet, you no longer see the hanger…know what I mean?…but that’s just me.  I like the idea of different gifts that are more suited to the individuals.

Only you know your BMs and their tastes, and if you think they’d like ’em, go for it!

 

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