Post # 1
I am having an outdoor wedding in May 2012 and have selected my bridesmaids and also have been looking at different dress/shoes/hair ideas. I have been in several weddings, all of them very different.
In a couple of weddings I have been in recently, the Bride requested the hairstyle be a certain way and she provided the clip in hairpiece to all of the BMs. We had the option to pay ($25 or $30 or I think) to have it done or we could just do it ourselves and try to mimick as best we could. The Bride also had a make up artist come in and do a few of the girls’ makeup… but she was mostly there to get the bride ready. That also was an additional $25 if you wanted your make-up done
My question is… I am still in the beginning process of planning and budgeting and wanted to see what other Brides out there have done as far as their BMs hair and make-up. I feel like most women are capable of putting on make-up… so that one is a no brainer. However; having the girls hair look “uniform” made it beautiful for pictures and I didn’t mind paying the $25, but I do not want to offend anyone.
How much have you other Brides set aside in your budget for things like this? Any advice/tips on getting ready on the big day?
Post # 3
I provided my BMs with hair sticks and ask them to wear their hair up. But they were free to interpret that however they felt and they did their own hair and makeup
Post # 4
I’m making hair combs for all of my girls out of brooches. I’m probably just going to ask them to curl their hair, part their hair on the side, and use the comb. Either that or I may just ask them all to pick a 50’s glam look of their choice and incorporate the comb how they want. I’m horrible with hair so I am going to get mine done at a salon. If my girls don’t feel comfortable doing it themselves I’ll probably just book extra slots at the salon for them.
Post # 5
I am in my sister’s wedding July 30th (as the maid of honor). All of the bridesmaids (there is 4 of us total) are getting their hair done the day of the wedding w/ the bride at the salon. The cost is $85/per person each and we are paying for ourselves. However, we are allowed to do whatever we want… no specific style that we all have to have. We are doing our own make-up.
For my wedding in November I asked if the girls if they wanted to get their hair done or not… and suprisingly the majority wanted hair & makeup done at the salon. They are paying for it. I think the total cost for hair & makeup will be ~$100. Hope that helps!
Post # 6
I told mine they could wear their hair and makeup however they wanted (professional hair/makeup being optional). I don’t like the look of identical hairstyles… too matchy-matchy and I wanted the girls to look like themselves.
Post # 7
i think what I am going to do is take a poll to see how many want their hair and/or make up done. If enough of them want it, then I am going to hire people to come to my mom’s house that morning and do all of our hair and make-up. I did this at one of my BM’s weddings and we had mimosas and breakfast and it was tons of fun! If they don’t want to pay then that’s fine they can do it themselves but I still would want them all to be there together. I am considering paying for them as well as part of their gift if they all agree and if I can afford it (but I won’t make it their primary gift).
Post # 8
I am in the camp that if you require pro hair/makeup/nails, you should pay for it. Along those lines, if you are paying for it, it is completely reaosnable to ask for it and they have nothing to complain about.
I’m not requiring a specific hairstyle or that they get it or their makeup or nails professionally done (both because I don’t want to pay for it and I just plain don’t care – it isn’t my hair!) All of the girls opted to get pro hair and pay for it themselves. Nobody wanted makeup, and nails are 50/50.
Post # 9
I’m providing hair and makeup for my girls (except for my Maid/Matron of Honor who wanted to go to her own hair and makeup people) but I had room in the budget. Generally I think if you want everyone to have their hair and/or makeup done professionally then you have to pay for it; if you are leaving the option up to them, then you can provide a person and let them decide if they would like to pay for it or not. I don’t really think it was all that appropriate what the bride you talked about asked you to do. I wouldn’t put the stress of having to figure out how to do a certain hair style and having no choice but to pay for it if they can’t figure it out. I think if you want everyone’s hair to look exactly the same you should pay for them to have it done that way, unless it’s something super simple like wearing it down and straight and all the girls naturally have straight hair.
Post # 10
I agree that if you are asking for specific hair/nails/makeup etc that you should foot the bill. My girls are doing everything themselves and I let them choose. Happy bridesmaids make good photos.
Post # 11
In agreement with the others – if you require a certain look (professional), then you foot the bill. I let all my BMs know who I was having my hair done by and then said if they wanted to get their hair professionally done at the same place I was getting mine done, to let me know. Out of 5 BMs, I’ve only got 2 joining me and they will pay for their own.
Post # 12
I am paying for my bridesmaids to get hair and makeup. They can get whatever they want, but I want it done professionally. I also bought their dresses. Bridesmaids are expensive to have!
Post # 13
If you want them all to have their hair and make up proffesionally done, you should pay for it. I think it is always nice to give them the option of doing their own or not.
For mine, I’m doing my own make up and one of my bridesmaid’s make up. And my Maid/Matron of Honor is doing the other bridesmaid’s make up.
Post # 14
I also agree if you require a specific look for hair and make up then you need to foot the bill. I let my girls do whatever they wanted. I find it silly to dictate how a Bridesmaid or Best Man should or should not do their hair and make up. My girls were free to do whatever as long as it looked go on her I didn’t care
Post # 15
I too am paying for my BM’s to have their hair professionally done ($65 pp) and professional makeup ($65) is optional, which most have surprisingly elected to pay for their makeup. I guess my only requirement for hair is to not have the same exact updo that I am going to have since that may look a little weird and I want to stand out of course!
*On a side note: I’m having each Bridesmaid or Best Man pay for their Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, but letting them wear any shoe color and style (other than sneakers) that they already own or feel like buying that compliments their dresses!