Post # 1
I have a small issue that I would appreciate advice on.
One of my BM’s is very “stylish”, like high-fashion type of stuff. I have been very flexible on everything today. The girls each got to choose their own Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and she choose one that will definitely make her stand out more then the other girls.
She has really long, full, thick curly hair. All along, she was saying that she was going to wear her hair in a smooth, high bun, which I thought would be nice with the dress and the feel of the wedding.
Just today at lunch, she said that she wants to wear her hair in a long messy side french braid. I sort of said, “Oh, how do you think it will look with the collar on the dress? Maybe a bit much?” She said she is going to do a trial this weekend and see how it looks, but she thinks it will be fine since Serena on Gossip Girl did this with a collared dress.
I am paying for make-up and the girls are paying for their hair. On one hand, I want them to have choice since they are paying for it, but on the other hand, I am also shelling out $$$ for photos that I want to be happy with!
Should I just shut my trap and hope for the best or say that I would really prefer the bun?
Post # 3
yes, let her do her hair how she wants. it’s a minor thing that could blow up. it sounds like she’s got good taste, so i think you should let it be!
Post # 4
I think that a side braid ala Serena would look great with that dress. It will make the collar not quite the focal point of your pictures and really soften the look.
Post # 5
Ok, I guess I will zip my lips.
I just feel like she is doing everything she can to stand out the most. She also told me that she is wearing her Mom’s cropped fur coat. I am planning on wearing a cropped mink too, but the other girls will be in normal coats. SO, no photos in coats anymore…
It is obviously just my own insecurities that I need to get over.
Post # 6
I agree with PP – just let it go – it is not worth it….
besides, no matter how much your Bridesmaid or Best Man tries to stand out, at weddings, everyone is looking at YOU (and your FI)….
Post # 7
I think you should see the trail and determine from there. IN the end, if it looks bad then she will be looking crazy at the wedding. Try to focus on you and let the Bridesmaid or Best Man do them. I also have my ladies picking their own dress, hair and makeup but I said, I had to approve of them all. Maybe this will help me avoid this kind of issue. FYI- my Maid/Matron of Honor is also very high end so ain’t no telling what she will come up with but I often love her style. Good luck.
Post # 8
i agree with rock hugger- i barely pay any attention to the bridesmaids! everyone will be looking at how gorgeous you look!