Post # 1
I haven’t officially asked my girls to be BMs yet since we have just started planning and aren’t getting married until April of 2013. I want to take the time to enjoy being engaged and putting together a cute package to ask the ladies 🙂
Anyway — the girl I plan to ask to be Maid/Matron of Honor is super busy right now with school + recently has moved to NYC. I totally get that everybody is busy and I actually don’t really want the BMs to think they need to be involved in the wedding, it’s not their wedding and I don’t expect them to be super involved. That being said, as of late, I’ve found it’s a little more touch and go on our communication. I know that we’re both busy, but what worries me is that when it gets down to crunch time and we need to purchase dresses and things like that, I won’t be able to get ahold of her.
Does anybody else have a similar concern? How are you dealing with it?
Post # 3
@seahorsey: One of my BMs was working full-time and going to school part-time, so she literally had no time to devote to helping with wedding stuff. She was really happy for me, but she didn’t help with anything. Her involvement was limited to basically showing up to the wedding. However, I knew that when I asked her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, so I wasn’t upset about it. You just have to make sure you’re totally okay with her not being that involved; it won’t be fair for you to get angry with her about it down the road if she really can’t commit much time to it.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t worry about it this early in the game. She is in a different city so it’s understandable that she won’t be able to do as much as everyone else, but as long as you tell her times/plans way ahead of time and work it out with her I’m sure it will all work out fine.
Post # 5
Thanks for the responses ladies! I just want to make sure I’m not being totally unreasonable with my feelings 🙂