(Closed) Bm has tattoos

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 47
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Since its a church wedding can you ask her to cover them on the grounds of “the church/pastor”  says we have to?  Basically tell her that the venue mentioned that they consider tattos inappropriate and if she were a guest it would be fine, but with her standing up front with everyone, you don’t want an issue with the officiant.  

Not quite the same situation, but we took this approach with alcohol at our wedding.  Due to some problem drinkers, we chose a church that doesn’t allow it.  When it came up we were able to say “nope not our fault they don’t allow it” We talked to the pastor about it and he was fine with us quoting church policy, even said that if they had issues with it they could call and talk to him and he would explain why it wasn’t allowed.  

It saved us a fight with a family member, and still got the end result that we wanted. 

Post # 48
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

So, a warning from personal experience. I was the MH in a wedding last summer where the bride asked (read: forced) me to cover my tattoos. I have two small, tasteful tats–one on my ankle, the other on my foot. Now, I am by no means in favor of vulgar ink on display in a wedding, but I do want you to know that the whole tattoo episode really, really threw a wrench in our friendship. The conversation only made me feel like my best friend was ashamed of how I look, and almost a year later I still feel like she put her wedding pictures before our friendship. 

Again, I completly agree with most of the PP about your right to ask her to cover the horrible tattoos, but just be warned that there might be long-term fallout. 

Good luck!

Post # 49
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194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Man I wish I saw this thread in time to see the pics ! 

Post # 50
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1789 posts
Buzzing bee

Amazon.com has several make ups that cover up tattoos. Just make her cover up the really shitty ones. IF she resists at firsts, buy it for her?

 

Post # 52
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Bee Keeper

@cinimini15:  Being a tattoo person myself, I’d have to say you totally have a right to ask her to cover up the swear word. Ugh, I like tattoos and all, but I have a friend doing the same thing. I suppose just let her look like an idiot. =/

Post # 53
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Buzzing bee

Can I see the tats? Eevryone is commenting saying they are revolting and I cannot see them

Post # 54
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m so sad that I didn’t come across this thread til the photos were deleted… lol. sorry OP.  Yeah, I don’t think you can do much more than ask for makeup on the bitch one and ask the photographer to pose to minimize and/or photoshop the others out later

Post # 55
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144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have tattoos all over my arms and back, so I kind of find it offensive what you wrote! I mean, everyone has their own opinions, but to say that she’ll look like an idiot is not fair. She is a person and her tattoos don’t define her-they are just a part of her. I wouldn’t ask her to cover them up, and even if you thought that she should cover them up, then you shouldn’t have her be your bridesmaid because you aren’t accepting her for who she is and what she likes and what she looks like.

Post # 56
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MeeshelleMyBelle:  Okay, you missed the pictures, so you’re really not getting the whole picture. I have nine tattoos, none of which are vulgar, and all of which have been done by pros. This girl has what are basically prison tattoos. They literally look like they were pen doodles, badly done ones at that. Not to mention the big “BITCH” tattoo on her ankle. The bride has every right to ask her to cover these.

Post # 57
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@vorpalette:  Yeah I definitely missed the pictures, but I read all of the descriptions, and yet I still stand by my opinion on this. Prison-like tattoos or not, the bride asked her to be her bridesmaid, tattoos and all, so it’s not right to ask someone to change themselves for the wedding because that’s asking her not to be herself.

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