(Closed) BM is moving before the wedding, can’t come

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

boooooooooo on her

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

total suckiness and uncool

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

She sounds kinda flaky, to say the least. One hopes she’ll be happy with her decision. Glad you were classy about it.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

This is a major life choice for someone. You have to support her & be understanding. For real, not just to her face. Put yourself in her shoes & don’t just look from your perspective. Your wedding is #1 for you, but you can’t expect friends to base life decisions on it. And so what if it’s only 8 months? Some people just know. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

🙁  I’m sorry… it’s a huge let down… but I think it’s great you were so classy about it!!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Yes, you said that followed by a “but…” 

I wasn’t giving more than my opinion that it sounds a little bratty. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@mamadingdong:  I think it’s ok to be supportive of a friend, and at the same time be disappointed in how that choice affects you.  I think that’s what the OP meant.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

booo how lame! it’s really, really disappointing to find out someone doesn’t value your friendship as much as you do. it’s not the same thing, but I had a bm who scheduled her bridal shower on the same day as mine, even though the date for my shower had been set before she was even engaged. she would have been coming in from out of town so I couldn’t “blame” her for missing it, and we didn’t have guests in common but seriously? you don’t care either about coming to mine, or me missing yours? sheesh! of course bms’ lives don’t revolve around the wedding, but it sucks when it doesn’t feel like a priority at all. 

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

My only issue with the post is that you had to throw in the length of time they’ve known each other. It made it seem as though you weren’t happy for her and you were looking to take a dig at her. 

I was engaged after 8 months.

I also don’t think backing out of your wedding means she’s giving up your friendship.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Ugh. How sh*tty. Proud of you for handling it well on the phone and not killing her!!

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