- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
Well she notified me via a mass text message that she was moving home (to NY from SC) this week on the X to be exact. I was being a good friend and messaged her via facebook (I can’t make calls at work) to see why she was moving back, does she need a place to stay, job etc. Just in general asking questions about her. I wrote a long message about how I hope she is alright and things work out etc. She wrote me back “Long Story, Bye” um…thanks? I then notice she is posting to other people’s walls, updating her status with quotes, has time to write all her messages in UpPeR/lower case (yes it’s annoying, no idea why she does that!) but she can’t write me a cliff’s notes version on why she is coming back!
So now I’m super pissed. But figure it’s not worth my anger and move on.
Fast forward to last week I email ALL my BM’s including her to tell them about a “Bachelorette Night” at our local casino where we get free drinks, food, gambling chips, vendors are there etc. Everyone says awesome, great, BM’s are coming in for the weekend to stay with me from Out of Town. This Bridesmaid or Best Man emails me back (for the first time in months) and says she’s in, she’ll def be home by then and can’t wait to go.Ok so that’s great, she’s finally acting happy about my wedding and wants to be involved. Also tomorrow since everyone is in town we are going to pick out BM’s dresses.
So I checked FB yesterday and see she’s still in SC…partying with friends. She didn’t even bother to email, call, message, text ANYTHING to let me know she wasn’t going to be here!
I’m not bothered so much by her still being down there, I know things come up etc but the fact that she’s posting about partying on her wall and can’t even call me to tell me she isn’t going to come? LAME. I’m super hurt. She keeps doing this to me (read second post above) and I feel like she is just so wrapped up in whatever that she has no interest in anything to do with me or the wedding. I don’t expect people to fawn over me and help me with everything, but she hasn’t done anything and never asks about the wedding. My other BM’s send me links to dresses, ask me about plans etc.
I guess I just need a place to vent, I’m at work and just really annoyed, sad, disappointed, angry. I don’t even want her in our wedding. Fiance think’s she is a bad friend (I don’t even disagree with him now b/c she is), loser, drinks too much and will cause drama and get wasted at the wedding (again I agree).
What do I do?