Post # 1
So I have a Bridesmaid or Best Man that I have known since my freshman year in college. She is actually my big sis from sorority. Let’s call her Tracy. Here’s the issue…
Tracy is a flight attendant; bcuz of her schedule she could not make it to the fittings, bm dress outings, or any other activities so far but that is totally cool I understand.
So, about 2-3 months ago she was in town so I wanted her to try on the bm dress. She said her car was not available so I took off from work early picked it up in LA and drove it to her. (btw-total lie her car was in the driveway but not the issue). At the time she said she would pay me the next time I saw her. We went to lunch and I mentioned that I was going to mail my MOH her dress who lives in NY . She then offered to take it with her on one of her flights; it would be no prob she said, she flies there all the time (and lives out there, too). I thanked her of course! I was relieved! So one month later I took her the dress and she transported it to my Maid/Matron of Honor and met up with her. They even went to dinner. (MOH is my high school friend) All good right??
Wrong! on Monday Tracy n I were texting, she wanted me to come out to a ball game later this month but I work. So I told her hey I think I wont be able to come out so maybe you can just mail me the $89. She then tells me she does not have checks and she will give me the money if I came to the game, but I can’t. So I say ok just hold on to it. So a few hrs later I get a text from her saying- Hey you think I can get some money shaved off the dress for transporting the it to Maid/Matron of Honor n meeting up with her?
I was a bit confused so I said- I’m sorry I didn’t know you had to spend money; let me know how much you spent and I’ll reimburse you. She says- No I did not spend any money but it would have cost her a lot more if you would have had to ship it to her. I say- what? well how much do you want? She say- Halfers I say- OMG you want $45, but it cost you nothing and I thought you were doing a favor she says- I was doing YOU the favor so you wouldn’t have to worry about it getting damaged or lost. I say- I’m going to talk to Maid/Matron of Honor So then I find out that she text my friend/MOH aslking her for the money. Keep in mind no mention that she was charging us a fee prior to this and the dress was transported about 1-1 1/2 months ago!
I’m really mad. I can honestly say it is not about money. She has never had financial issues and I can almost guarantee that she is not now. We text some more and I flat out asked her if she was having money burdens and she gave me some cheap run around answer and randonly included- oh and i broke up with my Boyfriend or Best Friend. I think she is fishing me to say I’ll pay for the dress and honestly if she was in financial hardship (like I am doing for another girl) I would but in this case I feel like I’d be getting duped.
I was like huh????? What do I make of this? Everyone says she is crazy. I’m starting to think this is a call for attention but so close to the wedding??? come on!
Post # 4
Wow… I would have a big “WTF” stamped on my forehead if I was in your position. Sounds like this girl has some other issues going on. The notion of a “favor” is that there’s no price tag attached, monetary or otherwise. My mom’s a flight attendant, so I know there’s no extra burden in transporting items. Where does she get $45 worth of effort from? Yikes! I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this so close to the wedding!
Post # 5
That’s really frustrating, I just don’t understand how some people act like that…especially since generally bridesmaids are your closest friends/family members. I’m really sorry you’re having to deal with this, I’m not sure what to tell you though. I think I would probably blow up & not even want her in my wedding anymore…but then again, I tend to be a little too hot-headed. :/
Post # 6
I’m just as boggled by htis as everyone else! I looked up the cost it would have cost to ship and it would be netween 12-15 bucks! I don’t understand why she wants to charge and why she didn’t say anything before! So strange…
I feel like she is fishing for me to say that I’ll pay for her dress just so she can get her way. I have no idea where this is coming from );
Post # 7
WOW!!!! That is beyond ridiculous. Seriously, I would just tell her straight up how crazy she’s being – but that’s just me. ugh!
Post # 8
I’m even considering asking her to step down from the wedding id she continues to act htis way… );
Post # 9
And this is your friend? Time to hit the highway IMO.
Post # 10
Wow, that is bad! Not sure what to tell you…what is the $89 for? I don’t know if it’s grounds for asking her to step down but she does appear to be quite the money grubber.
I’m curious- how did she ask your MOH for money? Did she try to charge her what the mailing cost would have been? Or did she ask her for $45? What did your Maid/Matron of Honor say?
Post # 11
Sorry…but she wouldn’t get one dime from me AND she would pay for her dress. I would just politely explain to her that she offered to deliver the dress and you would have shipped it with no problem so you don’t feel you owe her anything…especially not half the cost of her Bridesmaid or Best Man dress. Her reaction will probably let you know if you should drop her from your wedding party or not.
Post # 12
:O That is so rude!! JamaicaBride said what I was going to say so I agree 100%!
Post # 13
@JamaicaBride: I totally agree. If you take that approach, she’ll either keep trying to get around it, or she suck it up, pay you for the dress and drop the “fee”.
What a nut!
Post # 14
@Tatum: The $45 is half of her dress cost. She text Maid/Matron of Honor this ” Kiki is upset with me, but I’m hoping you can help me out. Can you pay me half of the cost of my dress for taking you your dress. It would have cost you more if you had it shipped to you. A lot of things are happeinging right now, I broke up with my Boyfriend or Best Friend. Can you help out?
So I am sad now bcuz I though she was a good friend but this is really not cool. Maybe she is envious that I’m getting marries and it is just coming out??? I don’t know! My friends that know her think she’s acting crazy and that it’s not cool.
Post # 15
this is absurd. is she usually this scheming?
Post # 16
@JamaicaBride: That’s how I feel, but at the same time I’m really sad about it. At first I was very mad but now I just feel that she is trying ot start drama when its been smooth sailing until now. I’m never asked her to do anything for the wedding, so it’s not like I’ve ben asking too much of the girls. It’s just soo strange