Post # 1
Ok Bees, how do I handle this?! My younger sister who lives in North Carolina (I live in Iowa) just sent me a picture of her new hair color. It is BRIGHT RED! Like Ariel the mermaid red! No joke! And my wedding is in 50 days!
Obviously it will tone down a little bit but not by much. I don’t want to be a bridezilla and have been really undemanding of my bridesmaids but I really really don’t want my sister to have bright red hair in my wedding pictures. Should I tell her to dye it something more mainstream before the wedding or just deal with it? Normally I wouldn’t care because she is a total free spirit and routinely does different things with her beauty and fashion but she obviously didn’t think about this decision first. Ugh!
Post # 3
I think you have to just deal with it.
Post # 4
Does it match your colors at least? lol.. I don’t think you can ask her to dye it.
Post # 5
Depending on the kind of dye she used it may be totally not colored by then. As she is your sister I might talk to her and ASK her however as much as it sucks, she is your sister, and an adult and can do what she likes with her hair. But def. talk to her. As you said she may not have at all thought about it so she may dye it a “normal” color for the wedding.
Post # 6
I would be pissed if my sister did this!I would tell her its very extreme for a wedding and if she could use a semi-perm before the wedding to make it more natural and it can wash out and she can re-do red again after.
Post # 7
Its hair…ask her if she planning on keeping it that color for the wedding?
If so…tell her how you feel, she is your sister. Then go from there. Maybe she just wanted to do it before your wedding for a specific reason or maybe its meant to be permanent. I am known for dying my hair crazy colors, I actually just did a “Deep Red” (LoL) and my mom freaked out on me. But its just hair. It’ll grow back or can be dyed over.
Definitely dont think its “Bridezilla” worthy though! Legit concern!
Post # 8
most hair colors only last 6 weeks ish. That gives her 42 days. Maybe she’ll dye it a more tamer color at that time.
Post # 9
I would maybe ask her very nicely if she plans on having it for the wedding. I understand its her choice, but she may not even be planning to keep it that way for your wedding
Post # 10
our wedding colors are pink and orange with a big emphasis on the pink…luckily her dress is black. But A) she won’t look like the sister I know (haven’t seen her in 2 years and I’m used to her brunetter hair) and B) everyone’s eyes are going to be drawn to her hair in all my wedding photos…..not me and my husband.
Post # 11
Hair is a REALLY personal thing, and I would wait a couple of days before you talk to her or ask her to change it! I can guarantee she didn’t think at all about your wedding (nor should she! personal expression – I think it’s a little like getting tattoos). So I suggest waiting a few days, think about how important it is to you (and to her), and hopefully you’ll decide you can deal with having some funky hair (ooh, an excuse to get your bridesmaids gorgeous big fascinators or cute hats!). But I’m going to highly recommend the ‘just deal with it’ approach. She might even be planning on dying it back for the wedding herself, and you would burn some serious bridges by complaining.
If you decide you want something more mainstream, then I suggest offering to pay for it to be dyed to a more natural color – and then paying to get it dyed back to fire-engine red or whatever other crazy hair she wants!
Post # 12
I think that hair color is beyond the scope of what you can control about your bridesmaids’ look. You said yourself she is a free spirit–unless she’s doing this to spite you (which is a different conversation altogether), then find something to appreciate about it and move on.
Post # 13
And it wouldn’t matter what she does to her hair, all eyes are going to be on you – don’t worry about that!
Post # 14
I think that in most cases I would say something like, people’s lives dont stop because your getting married. They are not under your control, and blah blah blah
However, she’s your SISTER totally different. I would tell her that it’s no good. although, my sis is my bf and we tell the other how it is all the time.
Post # 15
With her being such a free spirit I’m sure she’ll change it again before your wedding.
Post # 16
If she routinely colors it in loud or non-natural colors, maybe you’ll look back at her red hair in pictures and remember “Look how good *husband* and I look! Oh and there’s *sister* being her usual wild self.” Could you find it endearing later?