(Closed) BM just dyed her hair BRIGHT RED!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think you have to just deal with it.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Does it match your colors at least? lol.. I don’t think you can ask her to dye it.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Depending on the kind of dye she used it may be totally not colored by then. As she is your sister I might talk to her and ASK her however as much as it sucks, she is your sister, and an adult and can do what she likes with her hair. But def. talk to her. As you said she may not have at all thought about it so she may dye it a “normal” color for the wedding.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would be pissed if my sister did this!I would tell her its very extreme for a wedding and if she could use a semi-perm before the wedding to make it more natural and it can wash out and she can re-do red again after. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Its hair…ask her if she planning on keeping it that color for the wedding?

If so…tell her how you feel, she is your sister. Then go from there. Maybe she just wanted to do it before your wedding for a specific reason or maybe its meant to be permanent. I am known for dying my hair crazy colors, I actually just did a “Deep Red” (LoL) and my mom freaked out on me. But its just hair. It’ll grow back or can be dyed over.

Definitely dont think its “Bridezilla” worthy though! Legit concern!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

most hair colors only last 6 weeks ish.  That gives her 42 days.  Maybe she’ll dye it a more tamer color at that time.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I would maybe ask her very nicely if she plans on having it for the wedding.  I understand its her choice, but she may not even be planning to keep it that way for your wedding

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Hair is a REALLY personal thing, and I would wait a couple of days before you talk to her or ask her to change it! I can guarantee she didn’t think at all about your wedding (nor should she! personal expression – I think it’s a little like getting tattoos). So I suggest waiting a few days, think about how important it is to you (and to her), and hopefully you’ll decide you can deal with having some funky hair (ooh, an excuse to get your bridesmaids gorgeous big fascinators or cute hats!). But I’m going to highly recommend the ‘just deal with it’ approach. She might even be planning on dying it back for the wedding herself, and you would burn some serious bridges by complaining.

If you decide you want something more mainstream, then I suggest offering to pay for it to be dyed to a more natural color – and then paying to get it dyed back to fire-engine red or whatever other crazy hair she wants!

Good luck!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think that hair color is beyond the scope of what you can control about your bridesmaids’ look. You said yourself she is a free spirit–unless she’s doing this to spite you (which is a different conversation altogether), then find something to appreciate about it and move on.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

And it wouldn’t matter what she does to her hair, all eyes are going to be on you – don’t worry about that!

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think that in most cases I would say something like, people’s lives dont stop because your getting married. They are not under your control, and blah blah blah

However, she’s your SISTER totally different. I would tell her that it’s no good. although, my sis is my bf and we tell the other how it is all the time.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

With her being such a free spirit I’m sure she’ll change it again before your wedding.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

If she routinely colors it in loud or non-natural colors, maybe you’ll look back at her red hair in pictures and remember “Look how good *husband* and I look!  Oh and there’s *sister* being her usual wild self.”  Could you find it endearing later?

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