Post # 1
i don’t know what to do. I feel absolutely AWFUL. I’ve been babbling on and on about wedding stuff while she’s dealing with a family crisis. We were chatting dresses and she appologized for not going and trying them on but she’s been so tied up becuase of her Nephew to which I replied ‘your nephew??’
She thought she told me, I swear she didn’t. Her nephew has a rare liver disease and needs a transplant to live. Thinking back she might have mentioned he was sick but I KNOW she never told me this sick. I feel absolutely terrible. She’s in AB and her nephew is at the major childrens hospital near where I live in ON. I feel like I should do something but I don’t know her brother or sis-in-law. What do I do? I feel like a terrible human being.
Post # 3
I’d ask your friend if she’ll ask the boy’s parents if it would be okay if you brought them dinner at the hospital. They might appreciate a home cooked meal or some great take out, and that way they could eat something better than hospital food (which gets old quick) without having to leave their son’s side. That way you can just stop by and give them them the food, say hello, and let them know that although you don’t know each other, you are in the area if they need anything. It’s what I would do for a friend’s family.
Post # 4
@MsGinkgo: BREATHE. I am sure you already did, but apologise. Say that you have been selfish/sucky friend (even though you didn’t mean to! Even though you are certain that she didn’t tell you! It will make her feel better and repair any damage done to the friendship.)
Then ask her what she wants you to do. Does she want you to give something to his parents? Does she need anything from you?
You didn’t mean to hurt her, and I am sure she already forgives you. You BOTH have lots going on. Don’t forget to ask about his progress, don’t forget to ask about how she is dealing with it.
Post # 5
@Pepperwoodsy: I did that – I asked her if I can bring them food or help with their other son.
@misscakeandtea: I have definitely apologized, several times in the last few minutes, I told her to let me know if she needs anything. I certainly won’t be bothering her with stupid wedding details unless she brings up the wedding.
Post # 6
@MsGinkgo: It’s fine, you didn’t know. I would be sure to let her know that you’re available to talk any time she needs to, and majorly dial it down on the wedding stuff for now. I’d also offer to let her stay with you (if it’s possible) if she ever feels like she needs to be there.
Post # 7
@MsGinkgo: My first suggestion would be to make sure you aren’t overloading folks with wedding talk. Chances are they don’t want to hear about it constantly and would like to tell you about their lives as well.
My second suggestion is to send something to the hospital or even visit on your friend’s behalf since she is so far away (depending how close you are). In life or death situations, any kindness is much appreciated.
Post # 8
@MrsPanda99: I am making sure to ask people what’s going on in their lives and not just babble wedding 24/7 (that’s what the bee is for). It just happened that this conversation was completely about dresses and then she appologizes for not going to try any on becuase of her nephew and I had no idea.
She’s asked that I pray or send happy thoughts (whichever is more comfortable for me – her family is very religious, me not so much) so that’s what I’m doing and I’ve told her anything she needs or her family needs I’m here.
Post # 9
@MsGinkgo: My dad is really sick and we appreciated all the fruit baskets and food people sent. You often forget to take care of yourself and actually eat. Just a thought 🙂 Casseroles are easy and cheap!