(Closed) BM just told me her infant nephew is on life support…

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I’d ask your friend if she’ll ask the boy’s parents if it would be okay if you brought them dinner at the hospital. They might appreciate a home cooked meal or some great take out, and that way they could eat something better than hospital food (which gets old quick) without having to leave their son’s side. That way you can just stop by and give them them the food, say hello, and let them know that although you don’t know each other, you are in the area if they need anything. It’s what I would do for a friend’s family.

Post # 4
238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MsGinkgo:  BREATHE. I am sure you already did, but apologise. Say that you have been selfish/sucky friend (even though you didn’t mean to! Even though you are certain that she didn’t tell you! It will make her feel better and repair any damage done to the friendship.)


Then ask her what she wants you to do. Does she want you to give something to his parents? Does she need anything from you? 


You didn’t mean to hurt her, and I am sure she already forgives you. You BOTH have lots going on. Don’t forget to ask about his progress, don’t forget to ask about how she is dealing with it. 


Post # 6
842 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MsGinkgo: It’s fine, you didn’t know. I would be sure to let her know that you’re available to talk any time she needs to, and majorly dial it down on the wedding stuff for now. I’d also offer to let her stay with you (if it’s possible) if she ever feels like she needs to be there. 


Post # 7
9693 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@MsGinkgo:  My first suggestion would be to make sure you aren’t overloading folks with wedding talk. Chances are they don’t want to hear about it constantly and would like to tell you about their lives as well. 

My second suggestion is to send something to the hospital or even visit on your friend’s behalf since she is so far away (depending how close you are). In life or death situations, any kindness is much appreciated. 

Post # 9
9693 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@MsGinkgo:  My dad is really sick and we appreciated all the fruit baskets and food people sent. You often forget to take care of yourself and actually eat. Just a thought 🙂 Casseroles are easy and cheap!

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