Post # 1
so i had the perfect wedding year… bach party wknd… and wedding day.
now that we’re back to reality… going thru our gifts and ty card list… it just dawned on me… Bridesmaid or Best Man #5 (who i didn’t even ask, she sort of assumed the position on her own want – LONG STORY) didn’t gift us anything.
i didn’t even want a gift or even money for that matter as i appreciate the fact that she paid for her dress and came to vegas for bach party… however, NOT EVEN a card. a letter.
ZILCH. not a card for the shower (nor a gift)… not a card for the bach party (nor a gift)… not a card for the wedding (nor a gift) (all things all of my other BMs did do)
she went as far as having her bf txt me that their “gift” was in the mail… 3 weeks ago!
i know i’m being a total brat. but seriously, i’m more hurt that she couldn’t even write a card… when we’ve been friends since the first grade.
(on top of that, i invited her parents, her sister and her sister’s boyfriend… her and her bf… and her parents gave us $100… and her sister texted me that their gift was part of the parents…) not even a separate card.
am i totally overreacting?
ok im done being a brat. thanks for listening.
Post # 3
Awww. Lame!! And no you aren’t being a brat. I would be pissed too. I mean, someone who invites themselves to be a part of your wedding party can at least be polite enough to get you SOMETHING! Even if it is just a card congratulating you. Wow, the nerve. Sorry that happened to you!!
Post # 4
@SamanthaSadlier: thanks for the reassurance! i didn’t know if i was being bridezilla (post-wedding) LOL. we did have an amazing time with her and her bf… i think what sent me over the edge was that he texted me about our gift coming in the mail after the wedding… and i realized today that it was probably her old habit (she has a habit of telling a few close gf’s how our ‘bday gifts’ are in the mail every year… and they NEVER come. 😛 – she’s done this for years now.)
i guess i just dont understand the lie. i am TOTALLY ok with not expecting anything as they participated in the big day with us… but for her to pull her old habit for our wedding? totally unnecessary…
Post # 5
oh wow. i dunno what to do in this instance.
i had a groomsmen who did the same. didn’t even attend my husband’s bach party, did’nt even have to pay for his tux cuz we covered that, and then to top it all, the caught the garter belt with the $50 in it. so he actually made money off our wedding.
i was a little put off at first but now, i just had to let it go.
Post # 6
@callalillies: ughhh totally feel you! such a damper, but alas *sighhh* what else is there for me to do besides “let it go” i’m not going to stop being friends with her over something that really wont matter as time goes on…