(Closed) BM lied about getting her dress?!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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46404 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

ask her what she is planning on wearing to the wedding?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Wow that’s lame!

Tell her you got a call about MOHs dress and while on the line checked the status of hers to see when it would arrive. Tell her they showed no record of her dress and that she should follow up in case there’s an issue. Then see if she confesses,either way you can then ask what she plans to do if it isnt here on time….

Post # 7
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

That’s annoying.

Still, I’m confused. You said she was just like this, then you said you feel like she doesn’t care about you. Try not to take it personal. It sounds like there’s not enough time for hurt feelings, just figure out your next step. 

Post # 9
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6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@samjones:  It’s really unfortunate, but people don’t always reciprocate the respect or other things you give them. Weddings can sometimes bring out the worst characteristics of someone in full force.

I would do as PPs suggested and just mention to her that you know she hasn’t ordered it and see what her plan is? It’s got to be dealt with. I’m sorry you’re in this situation.

Post # 11
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67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Well, i think it’s too late to beat around the bush, i mean it’s your wedding! Just call her out and find out what happened, then try to figure out a solution.

Post # 12
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8430 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Could she have ordered it elsewhere?

Post # 13
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11272 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@samjones:  i hate to say this but do you think she’s having second thoughts about being a bm?  you said that she got separated recently, is she having a hard time dealing with a wedding?

definitely ask her about the dress.  if she has not ordered it, ask her if she is still interested in being your bm?  you never know what’s going on in someone’s head unless you ask.

Post # 15
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1294 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@mypinkshoes:  I agree

OP i think you just need to be direct and get to the bottom of this as kindly as possible.. I know this is frustrating and upsetting but if she is having a hard time, she will open up with kindness over anger.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@mypinkshoes:  i was thinking the same thing :/

frustrating either way, OP! i second SupermansSweetheart‘s approach rather than just calling her out on it directl. it might light a fire under her ass and could avoid drama.

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