(Closed) BM Luncheon? yes/no?

posted 12 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
114 posts
Blushing bee

I don’t know if it’s "necessary", but I think it’s nice (in my mind it’s proper etiquette) and also will be a lot of fun.  I only have 1 person in my wedding party, Maid/Matron of Honor.  I will be taking her out to a brunch or lunch & fun spa day as we get closer to "the day" as a thank you for all she’s doing. 

Even if I had a few girls in the wedding party I would take them out: lunch, brunch, tea & crumpets, something fun in addition to the rehearsal dinner.

We will be giving our wedding party (MOH and BMan) their gifts at the rehearsal dinner, along with gifts for the parents and our readers.

Post # 4
296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

I also don’t think it’s necessary, especially if your budget is tight. We’re doing something a little different. Our wedding party is very small only because if we included all the people we wanted to, there would be no one in the seats. So in order to include all my special girls, I’m having a girls only party the day before. Truthfully, partly it’s for the free labor since they’ll be helping me put the flowers together and maybe the programs (and any other last minute ribbon tying tasks I run across). We’re also going to have a … ritual… for lack of a better word that my friend is writing. It’ll center around acknowledging that as women we must first learn to love honor and cherish ourselves before we can commit to love honor and cherish anyone else. We’re going to make braceletes that we can all wear at the wedding the next day. Hopefully it’ll be very affirming for everyone involved as well as a bonding time for all the women in my life.

I’m hoping to take my mom (who’s my maid of honor) and my one bridesmaid off to the side one at a time at some point during the day and give them their package and thank them for everything they have done to help me with all this.

 Since we have so many out of towners, I’m afraid if I take time away to take just my mom and my bridesmaid out to lunch or coffee or something that all the other girls will end up sitting around with nothing to do. And the last thing I want to do (in our situation) is to exclude people.

Post # 5
91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2007

you know – I planned a luncheon with the girls (after the spa party and before the rehearsal dinner) and my girls were sneaky and ended up paying for the luncheon.  It was a nice time to relax and end our spa party and enjoy ourselves before the rehearsal and dinner.  (afterwards, we went to the hotel room and napped for two hours)

Post # 6
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Not necessary, but I think it will be kind of fun.  I’m getting married next August but want to do a Bridesmaid or Best Man luncheon or tea party thing at Christmas this year when they’re all in town.  The reason I’m doing i9t so early is because one of my BM’s has never met the other girls, and my sister doesn’t know my friends very well, so I want a chance for them to all get to know each other well ahead of time.  We’re all really looking forward to it 🙂

Post # 7
47 posts
  • Wedding: June 2008

I’m having a luncheon for my BMs. I’m inviting all of the women in the family, the BMs(of course) and any Out of Town women. All attendees will receive a favor and I will present the BMs with their gifts. My fiance is planning a golf outing for the men at the same time, so everyone will have something to do.

 Is the luncheon necessary? No, but it’s nice… and in my part of the country, it is a traditional thing to do. If your budget can handle it, I would consider hosting one for the girls.

Post # 8
1 posts
  • Wedding: August 2007

I don’t think a Bridesmaid luncheon is necessary by any means, but what a wonderful way to thank the women who have helped make the event so special! It is also the perfect opportunity for one last single girl gab session. I hosted a luncheon the day before my wedding, while the men went off and played golf. After the weekend, my girls said it was the highlight. We laughed, cried, opened presents, and caught up before the tasks of the weekend took us away! My mother and mother-in-law also got to spend some quality time with the wedding party, which I know meant a lot to them. The luncheon doesn’t have to be over the top, or cost a lost of money, it’s just about spending time with your best friends and thanking them – profusely – for all of their help!

Post # 9
8 posts
  • Wedding: April 2008

I definitely don’t think it’s necessary.  I’ve been in weddings with them, and I’ve been in weddings without.  On one hand, it’s fun to get together just the gals and hang out (and the free food is also a bonus)!  On the other hand, it’s nice to have that day free to get things done before the busy wedding weekend.  There have been a couple of weddings where I’ve had to travel home for them, and it’s nice to have the day free to either travel or to relax.

We aren’t having a traditional bridesmaid luncheon in order to cut costs, but we’re having a beach day the day before the wedding with just the girls.  We’ll probably get some sandwiches and soda for all the girls and just enjoy some relaxing girl time before the madness begins that night!

Post # 10
629 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2005

I only had one bridesmaid, so I took her out to a fancy restaraunt after a long day of dress shopping and then gave her the gift I made on our wedding day. I was able to get the photographer to capture the moment, and it was a nice to have that to pass the time while we were waiting in the getting ready room.

Post # 11
735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

I hadn’t even thought about this yet! Yikes!

I do plan on having a yoga instructor come the morning of the wedding to teach a class for all of the girls… maybe i can incorporate that?


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