(Closed) BM may not be able to afford suit…

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Traditionally the Bridesmaid or Best Man does rent/buy a tux or suit and plans the bachelor party.  However, before you ask him to buy or rent anything you should get an idea of what his budget is and stick to it or offer to pay if he can’t afford it.  For the bachelor party, the Bridesmaid or Best Man usually organizes it but anyone can do it.  If the Bridesmaid or Best Man can’t, for whatever reason, it shouldn’t be held against him (remember these parties are optional).

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

Yes, the best man is expected to pay for the suit and plan the party, however, you have to respect his limitations. If you can offer to pay for half of the suit and he can cover the rest, then great. In terms of the party, I planned my husband’s. I really wanted him to have one and knew his guys wouldn’t know what to do. So I just worked with his best man, and he had a great night. Sometimes you have to be flexible.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it’s fine to expect Bridal party to pay for their attire. Howeer, given that he cannot afford it, I’d go ahead and help him out with the expense.  

Traditionally, groosmen also plan bachelor party but in our case, I’m helping them plan!  They were having a tough time getting their acts together to plan it so I stepped in to help coordinate since I really want Fiance to have an awesome bachelor party!!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Mens wearhouse has a basic rental package for 60$ – although I don’t think they offer what you want.

Also he shouldn’t accept being Bridesmaid or Best Man ( sorry to say) but if he can’t pay for it he should not accept with out letting you know- then you have the choice of either asking someone else who can or offering to pay for him.  If you can pay for him or pay half do so! maybe it can be  a christmas or birthday gift?

Our Groomsmen are my Fi’s younger brother and very poor- but the tux is only 60$ and if they rent them Fi gets a free suit and he needs one for his new job in the winter- so we told them it would count as his birthday ( that just happend) (wedding) and (christmas gift) and they where happy to do so!

You’ll figure something out and it will be awesome!

I had  a Bridesmaid or Best Man step down cause she couldn’t afford a 30$ dress.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

i believe that the bride and groom should be paying for the outfits (or whoever is paying for the wedding). i would NEVER ask someone or expect someone to step down because they couldn’t afford to buy an outfit for MY wedding. but that could be just where i am from, some places it might be acceptable to drop a Bridesmaid or Best Man or Groomsmen for not being able to pay for the outfit

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

It’s expected that they pay for their attire. 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think the best man should anticipate paying for his own attire, whether rented or bought. However, we did buy the outfits for our entire wedding party.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

also he and all the groomsmen should split the b-party.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Usually bridal party members pay for their own attire.  I knew I would need my bp to do this so I made sure to get their imput on how much they could comfortably spend.  The groomsmen are buying pants and shirt they can wear again and we’re having their vests made (as with the dresses).  I did buy all the material for all the attire to be made and they will pay for the finished product.

As for the bachelor/rette party, I guess it’s the bestperson (MOH or Bridesmaid or Best Man who plans these).  Fi does not have a bm… so all his friends and cousins are planning it together.

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