(Closed) BM missing bachelorette party because she has no ID *rant*

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 34
2404 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Edited: Never mind she doesnt live in Maryland…. 

Post # 35
37 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

This sucks. It’s just sucky to have one of your bridesmaids not be able to attend the Bachelorette Party. One of my Bridesmaids (one of best friends) was on vacation for mine, and I was SO upset about not having her there. She lives out of town, and the in-town bridesmaids made all of the arrangements, and when they put the word out, we all found out she had her vacation scheduled. It was  fluke thing, but we had everything booked and the hotel was pre-payed, so we couldn’t change it. I would have loved for her to be there, but I had a blast regardless. You will have fun with whoever is there, and honestly, I seriously doubt this just sprung up… I’m sure the party has been planned for a while. She shouldn’t have waited so long to get it. If she misses out, it’s her fualt. I DO NOT think you should change your plans. YOu can’t always please everyone, that’s just the way life goes. I hope she’s able to get the temporary ID, and that it all works out, but if now, I hope YOU still enjoy YOUR celebration! Good luck

Post # 37
611 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Aelie:  OP, I would bring your friend and hope she doesn’t get carded.  Not sure where you’ll be going out, but when I had my bachelorette in Buffalo, my sister/MOH was 19 and went with us without a problem.  The rest of us were between 21-24 and all together there were about nine of us.  No one bothered us, and no one carded any of us.  It was very clear that we were all dressed up for a bachelorette party and no one gave us trouble.  

Post # 38
2056 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

6… months?  I mean, I know she doesn’t drive, and it’s not necessary to buy alcohol, but that just seems freaking bizzare.  Heck, I usually have to show ID for going to the doctor.  There was seriously not a single instance where she didn’t think, hey, I should get a new one?

I guess try to find a temporary ID fix?  I don’t think a birth certificate alone will work.  If anything will work, it would need to be something with a birthday and a picture, like a passport.

Certainly don’t change or cancel your plans.  It was her big mistake in not realizing that some form of ID is pretty much vital for life.  Let her chance it if she wants; otherwise she can stay home.

Post # 39
1908 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

Sorry it doesn’t seem to be working out! I honestly never heard of this happening. Here we always get IDs on the spot. Every DMV I’ve been to takes your photo, you wait a few min, then you get your ID card. Same when I lived in OH too. The only thing I’ve waited on were actual license plates.

I would still be tempted to use the passport. My cousin has used hers many times and for as little as they looked at it I’m sure they only looked at her photo and DOB.

Post # 40
108 posts
Blushing bee

@Aelie:  So sorry that happened. My 30 year old sister and I went to a winery once and she also only had an international driver’s license with a photo. Rejected. The bartender told us that she can’t risk her bartender license. Birth certificate isn’t accepted at most places as it’s not a photo ID, at least in where I live. Temp ID also can be rejected – we have a photo on our temp ID but enough bars don’t accept because it’s too easy to fake. Only driver’s license, dmv issued ID cards(also mailed) and valid passports are accepted.

Post # 42
8375 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Would you consider having your bachelorette party be a nice dinner at a great restaurant instead?

Post # 43
8700 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Just use the expired passport–I’m sure it’ll be fine!

Post # 44
395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Ms_Purple:  Up until a few weeks ago, I lived in VA too and it takes a while to get a license.  I don’t know if it takes a while for renewals but for a 1st time VA license it takes over a week!


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@Aelie:  That sucks.  I went out once and forgot my ID at home!  A friend who looks nothing like me but is also Afr American lent me her ID.  Her boyfriend came outside the bar, gave me a hug, slipped me the ID and I got in to 2 bars that night using that trick!  It was a fun caper!  I don’t know if it would work for you but it’s worth a shot.  The expired passport might work too!

Post # 45
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I bet she’ll have no problem with an expired passport, but tell her to bring a birth certificate or something else with her to back it up, just in case!

Post # 46
740 posts
Busy bee

Could she bring her passport and her birth certificate? Even if the passport is expired it has her picture on it, and her birth certificate would be valid. 

I find it hard to believe a place would turn her away in that case. 

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