Post # 32
well I just got off the phone with DMV and they told me that they don’t provide temp ID’s in virginia and that the ID’s are printed out of hte office and have to be mailed. I guess she is screwed now.
Post # 33
@Christy42213: they must have chaned it because I just called DMV and was told that the ID’s are not printed in the office and they dont have temp ID’s
Post # 34
Edited: Never mind she doesnt live in Maryland….
Post # 35
This sucks. It’s just sucky to have one of your bridesmaids not be able to attend the Bachelorette Party. One of my Bridesmaids (one of best friends) was on vacation for mine, and I was SO upset about not having her there. She lives out of town, and the in-town bridesmaids made all of the arrangements, and when they put the word out, we all found out she had her vacation scheduled. It was fluke thing, but we had everything booked and the hotel was pre-payed, so we couldn’t change it. I would have loved for her to be there, but I had a blast regardless. You will have fun with whoever is there, and honestly, I seriously doubt this just sprung up… I’m sure the party has been planned for a while. She shouldn’t have waited so long to get it. If she misses out, it’s her fualt. I DO NOT think you should change your plans. YOu can’t always please everyone, that’s just the way life goes. I hope she’s able to get the temporary ID, and that it all works out, but if now, I hope YOU still enjoy YOUR celebration! Good luck
Post # 36
@MsPanda: she is in Virginia :/ maryland does give it to you right away, they did to me. I guess Virginia has different practices or something
@AlmostMrsShea: Thank you! It just sucks because she is so fun to hang out with.
Post # 37
@Aelie: OP, I would bring your friend and hope she doesn’t get carded. Not sure where you’ll be going out, but when I had my bachelorette in Buffalo, my sister/MOH was 19 and went with us without a problem. The rest of us were between 21-24 and all together there were about nine of us. No one bothered us, and no one carded any of us. It was very clear that we were all dressed up for a bachelorette party and no one gave us trouble.
Post # 38
6… months? I mean, I know she doesn’t drive, and it’s not necessary to buy alcohol, but that just seems freaking bizzare. Heck, I usually have to show ID for going to the doctor. There was seriously not a single instance where she didn’t think, hey, I should get a new one?
I guess try to find a temporary ID fix? I don’t think a birth certificate alone will work. If anything will work, it would need to be something with a birthday and a picture, like a passport.
Certainly don’t change or cancel your plans. It was her big mistake in not realizing that some form of ID is pretty much vital for life. Let her chance it if she wants; otherwise she can stay home.
Post # 39
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
Sorry it doesn’t seem to be working out! I honestly never heard of this happening. Here we always get IDs on the spot. Every DMV I’ve been to takes your photo, you wait a few min, then you get your ID card. Same when I lived in OH too. The only thing I’ve waited on were actual license plates.
I would still be tempted to use the passport. My cousin has used hers many times and for as little as they looked at it I’m sure they only looked at her photo and DOB.
Post # 40
@Aelie: So sorry that happened. My 30 year old sister and I went to a winery once and she also only had an international driver’s license with a photo. Rejected. The bartender told us that she can’t risk her bartender license. Birth certificate isn’t accepted at most places as it’s not a photo ID, at least in where I live. Temp ID also can be rejected – we have a photo on our temp ID but enough bars don’t accept because it’s too easy to fake. Only driver’s license, dmv issued ID cards(also mailed) and valid passports are accepted.
Post # 41
I would love to take her and risk it. But what if she doesn’t get in? Then we would all be screwed. It’s not like I can leave her in my house and tell her to watch TV while we are out having fun. House party’s are not my thing and I’d be bored out of my mine so that is not an option. She just can’t go I guess 🙁
Post # 42
Would you consider having your bachelorette party be a nice dinner at a great restaurant instead?
Post # 43
Just use the expired passport–I’m sure it’ll be fine!
Post # 44
@Ms_Purple: Up until a few weeks ago, I lived in VA too and it takes a while to get a license. I don’t know if it takes a while for renewals but for a 1st time VA license it takes over a week!
@Aelie: That sucks. I went out once and forgot my ID at home! A friend who looks nothing like me but is also Afr American lent me her ID. Her boyfriend came outside the bar, gave me a hug, slipped me the ID and I got in to 2 bars that night using that trick! It was a fun caper! I don’t know if it would work for you but it’s worth a shot. The expired passport might work too!
Post # 45
I bet she’ll have no problem with an expired passport, but tell her to bring a birth certificate or something else with her to back it up, just in case!
Post # 46
Could she bring her passport and her birth certificate? Even if the passport is expired it has her picture on it, and her birth certificate would be valid.
I find it hard to believe a place would turn her away in that case.