- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
I’ve been lurking on and off for some time now, enjoying the perspectives of other brides-to-be… but now I have an issue, and would like some input. This is mostly a vent, and a check to make sure I’m not going insane. I’m not even sure where to begin…
I’ve had the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress picked out since last summer (before that, even). When I started looking at dresses, my one Bridesmaid or Best Man (there are only two total – my best friend and my sister, who is MOH) asked me to consider a style that would accomodate a supportive bra for her rather large chest. I had no problem doing that, as I really don’t want her boobs popping out of her dress in the middle of my wedding, you know? So, I chose a nice, simple, sleevesless v-neck dress that would look flattering on both girls. They both liked it in the picture, and that was that.
Fast forward to a few weeks ago, when my fiance and I visit my best friend while on vacation. She informs me that the dress won’t work for her – it looks “slutty” on her – and I’ll have to pick something else. I asked if she could order a size up for room on top (she sometimes has a habit of thinking she’s a smaller size than she is) and get the rest altered, and she starts telling me that the dress was way overpriced to begin with, and if she has that much alteration done, it’s going to be way out of her price range. Ok, makes sense. So, I offered to order the dress for her from a shop elsewhere that has lower prices, and have it sent to her. She then tells me that she doesn’t think a larger size will work either, as the top is constructed in a “tube shape,” and doesn’t allow enough room for a large chest.
Is this beginning to sound like B.S. to anyone else?
We’re still six months out, so no need to panic quite yet, but my problem is, I chose the dress I did because I had a very hard time finding a style I liked in the color I wanted. And now I have to choose something new? *sigh* My sister liked the original dress I chose, and that was the one she ordered this past weekend. As for the other Bridesmaid or Best Man, I emailed her for suggestions on styles that would work for her…
(I should add that I had chosen a very similar style/color dress as a backup, but my Bridesmaid or Best Man waited so long to tell me the dress wouldn’t work, that the backup dress is now discontinued.)
I also emailed this Bridesmaid or Best Man a week or so ago with the pricing information for the salon where the Maid/Matron of Honor and I are getting our hair and makeup done. I told her in the email that, if she would rather do her own hair and makeup, that was fine, but she needed to let me know before Easter… as the salon is in my hometown (where the wedding is being held), and I needed to make the appointment while I was home.
In the meantime, she has started posting on her Facebook account nearly daily, and she has answered FB messages from my sister (whom she doesn’t even like that much) regarding the dresses… (so I know she has internet access)… but not MY emails.
So, via my sister, since she won’t/can’t/whatever answer me directly, I’ve told her to choose a dress from the same designer, in the same color that she thinks will work for her. I am a tad concerned about what she’ll choose (re: my earlier comment about her “misjudging” her size and knowing that she likes attention), but at the same time… I can’t be stressed over it. Besides, if she procrastinates long enough in choosing something, it won’t arrive in time, so she just won’t be in the wedding. As for the salon, I wrote her down for an updo and makeup; I figure, it’s better for the salon to be over-prepared than for me to show up with an extra person to get made up.
I realize she’s a grad student and works nearly full time on top of that, lives on the other side of the country and has her own life, but seriously… am I asking too much that she answer a few simple questions? She’s my best friend, and I thought this flaky behavior was left behind in our college years.
Thanks for reading this far, and sorry I’m rambling. I hope this post was coherent enough!