Post # 1
I’m sorry. I try not to, but this is reall pissing me off.
One of my best friends got engaged, I’m SUPER excited for her! She hasn’t picked a venue, let alone a date. That’s fine. But she did pick her BM/MOHs. She has 2 co-MOH and 7 other Bridesmaid or Best Man. We’re split down the middle, as in half of them are from middle school era and half of us are from after college (I’m from the after college friends).
Well, one of her BMs is SUPER pissed and jealous she is not a Maid/Matron of Honor. To the point of where she is not only trying to make things difficult for me, but when she isn’t getting her way, she keep running to the bride to complain. IE: I said we should hold off on planning the shower until the bride had a date for the wedding, she fought me, ran to the bride, who then told all three of us, she agreed with me, and thought we should wait.
While my co-MOH have decided to include the bratty Bridesmaid or Best Man in the Maid/Matron of Honor planning aspects of all this, my biggest problem is that, this Bridesmaid or Best Man wants to do ALL the planning, ALL her ideas, but she doesn’t want to contribute financially. She is fabulously unemployed. As in, she in her 30s, and has NEVER had a job, has no intrest in having a job and from what I have seen, takes financial advantage of her good friends.
I have tried on numberous occasions to find out a budget for us for the shower – and have been shot down. Bratty Mcbratterson wants o plan the whole thing herself… and have us pay. I am NOT a bank!
Post # 3
This situation sucks. Honestly, I would stop including her in the Maid/Matron of Honor stuff. You’re giving the brat what she wants.
Post # 4
Next time she shares one of her grand ideas, tell her sweetly that you think her idea is great and how much money would she like to contribute to implementing her idea?? It would tell her without actually telling her that she needs to shut the * up.
Post # 5
@Lyndzo: Unfortunately, that is not an option for two reasons.
1) My co-MOH insists on including her. Part of me is wondering whether or not my co-MOH is upset that I was chosen over her friend as well.
2) Because of Bratty BM’s melt down about lack of Maid/Matron of Honor, the bride has requested us MOHs include the Brat.
@FutureMrsJohnston: I think this is what I’m going to do. As one of my friends said, “No pay, no say.”
The bride has still not picked a venue or date… but we were out for her birthday last night and both my co-MOH and Bratty McBatterson sat in the corner, away from the party, scheming and planning the shower. At some point even asked the bride’s suggestions, to which she told them once again, “I haven’t picked a venue or date yet, so maybe hold off. Also it’s my birthday… would rather not talk about this now.”
Post # 6
BFF (the bride) is handling this WAY wrong!
She needs to tell Bratty to worth WITH you, not against you!
She can have an opinion, but ultimately she needs to agree with you and everyone else!
Post # 7
@BrandNewBride: The Bride has tried to steer clear of drama. She said last night she did not want to be involved. She didn’t want to be asked about anything… and when the Brat ran back to her the first time, she sent out an email saying she didn’t think we should start planning until AFTER she had a venue and date (which The Brat and Co-MOH has obviously ignored), but detailing the important things to her – which I knew and she had I had previously discussed.
Basically ANYthing and EVERYthing has been shut down, ignored and argued with, until the Brat runs backs to the bride and basically agrees or reiterates what I already said or proposed.
I was going to offer to step down from my role just to keep the piece, but before I could even get the words out, the bride was VERY clear she was happy with her decision and that I am one of her BFF and how happy she is I agreed to it, etc.
I just needed to rant.
One of the BMs said once we ACTUALLY start planning, she will back me up… but I have a feeling there is going to be a civil war.