Post # 1
I really hate my bridemaids!
I’ve known them for a very long time and at this rate I’m ready to end the friendships with all of them. They are selfish, they are divas and they all think the my wedding day is about them. They are only concerned with how good they look and how they can be catered too!
They look to me for my advice and resources but then use it against me. They are condsending and mean to me. It was never like this before or maybe I was too young to recognize their personality traits.
They had no real participation in planning the events around my wedding. My Aunt, God Mother and Granny helped execute my bridal shower. My fiancee planned my bachelorette (sponored everything for everyone) and all they complain about is how much the dress and alterations cost! They all want to wear the same shoes as me (Le Silla)! They won’t let the day be mine. I want them to look good they are all beautiful but are in competition with me!
This is suppose to be the happiest time of my life but they have made this an absolute nightmare. IDC if i never see them again after my wedding. I have two more weeks to deal with them but when I get back from Tahiti I will act as if they never existed. I hate the fact that I have to have them in my wedding photos more less the actual wedding.
I let these feelings linger for too long that if I would explain this to them they wouldnt understand.
Post # 3
How many bridesmaids do you have including your MOH? I cant belive that they care about how they look that much, what bitches!! And ALL of them for that matter.
Post # 4
Weddings can be stressful but I would try not to ruin your relationships over it. If it’s all of them like you say…is there a possibility that you’re expecting too much?
Post # 5
@Liss13: I have 4 in total. Its pretty bad and its getting to me emotional along with all the other stress! I mean my hair is thinning over it thank GOD for extensions!
Post # 6
@AlwaysSunny: when you’ve been friends for over 10 years its kind of like wouldnt you expect the best? I know I would give the best.
Post # 7
Have you tried talking to these friends not about the wedding but about your friendship? Maybe they feel your expectations are too high? Maybe you did something that has upset them? Isn’t 10 years of friendship worth a conversation to try and find out what the source of the problem is?
Post # 8
I’m sure they want to give you the best but your wedding isn’t their number one priority. I can understand being upset with one Bridesmaid or Best Man but when you’re talking about all of them falling short, it sounds like you need to communicate with them better. Your feelings aren’t wrong of course but it sounds like you have different expectations.
Post # 9
I think it would be a good idea to talk to them. If you think you’ll get too emotional or end up arguing while trying to comminucate… getting a mediator to speak to them may be a good idea. Perhaps your God mother or aunt…someone who knows them well?
Not to accuse them or anything…but just communicate to see where everyone’s at and to let them know how you feel.
IF you keep it this way…you’ll resent your wedding photos and lose your friends…
Or if you get into a big rumble…you may lose your BMs…
I think communication is important here.. I don’t think they’re trying to ruin your day intentionally… or anything like that.