Post # 1
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229 posts
Helper bee
Hi Bees,
So a bit of problem… one of my bridesmaids has been very involved in my wedding since I got engaged. She always asks to help with whatever I need, is just a phone call away and has said that when she gets engaged I will be the FIRST person she calls. This girl is one of my nearest and dearest friends and have made her a Bridesmaid or Best Man. I think the problem started when I heard through the grapevine she thought she was going to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. Instead I picked another close friend for the job. Now as my wedding nears and planning starts to surface, she pretty much has taken on the Maid/Matron of Honor role (not sure how my Maid/Matron of Honor feels about this because she is one of those girls who are too sweet for their own good, and would never dream of saying anything bad about anyone much less start a fight). I just worry that this Bridesmaid or Best Man is overstepping her boundaries and can lead to many issues. She is a very hands-on, pushy girl and when she has an idea in her mind she will convince everyone else of it. She most recently took it upon herself to plan my bachelerotte party – isn’t this the Maid/Matron of Honor job?
I don’t know what to do bees, do I step in and same something. Do I let them all just work it out for themselves? Am I worrying about nothing… oh man, the joys of planning!
Post # 3
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1119 posts
Bumble bee
Personally I would just let it go, unless your Maid/Matron of Honor comes to you and says that she feels this Bridesmaid or Best Man is overstepping the boundaries and feels bad about it.
I was in a wedding where I was the Maid/Matron of Honor, and a Bridesmaid or Best Man who clearly wanted that role kept doing stuff like you’re describing. I just went along with it, helped out with the wedding and was amused by her. The stuff she was doing was still contributing to the bride’s plans for the wedding, so I figured why start unnecessary drama?
Post # 4
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2116 posts
Buzzing bee
I wouldn’t worry about it. You have enough on your plate planning a wedding. If they have a problem, let them work it out. As of now, it sounds like there is no problem and you’re worrying a bit too much.
Post # 5
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61 posts
Worker bee
I agree with the other posters. It seems like you are creating a problem that doesn’t exist. Plus, maybe your Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t mind that your Bridesmaid or Best Man is “taking over”. At any rate, they are both adults and I’m sure they can work it out themselves if a problem arises. As a bride, you must have a ton of other things to worry about, don’t get caught up in nonexistent drama. Good luck! 🙂
Post # 6
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2161 posts
Buzzing bee
Take whatever help you can get. If your Maid/Matron of Honor feels left out, just include her.
Post # 7
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241 posts
Helper bee
You have enough to worry about. You shouldn’t know whose doing what and if you do, just ignore it.