Post # 1
Is anyone doing anything outside the norm for a Bridesmaid or Best Man thank you? I’m finding myself surprised at how traditional and uncreative I am turning out to be with this whole wedding thing LOL Here I thought I’d get some funky modern bridal dress and I got me a mermaid lace one LOL. Anyway,
I was thinking of gifting the BMs:
1) Choice of Makeup or Hair paid –Is that rude to begin with?
2) AND a Get ready T-shirt
Although the whole robes look adorable, I don’t see any of us using them in the future (maaaaybe if it was terrycloth LOL), and I’m not a fan of the #SQUAD #BRIDE TRIBE, etc. so I thought personalizing some Tshirt’s from our college might be cool?? “Friends est. 19XX”, “Friends since 20xx”,
“I slaved for my friend’s wedding, and all I got was a crappy Bridesmaid or Best Man shirt”
two BMs are from our sorority, and Maid/Matron of Honor is classmate from grad school (I went to same school for BS/MA).
anywho, Ideas are appreciated. THANKS!
Post # 2
Your heart is in the right place but the things you mentioned are all for your wedding and photo ops. A real gift of appreciation is something tailored to each individual bridesmaid according to their tastes and interests.
Personalized gifts show you care about the friend not how to make your wedding look better.
Post # 3
I have been a bridesmaid quite a few times.. anyways, in all honesty, i don’t use the “MOH” “Bridesmaids” or wedding dated gifts after the wedding. They end up tossed in the back of a drawer somewhere. The “Friends est. 19XX” would be neat and I would totally wear again. Also, things with my own initials that don’t indicate my role in the wedding. I have been gifted jewlery the bride wanted us to wear for the wedding which was awesome! Also, having hair paid for was a great gift! Another bride gifted us our shoes for the wedding. Bonus was they were flats I wore again and again!
Post # 4
FrenchToastnCoffee : I’d skip the thank you gifts and IF possible just buy them the bridesmaid dresses that will be used for your wedding. To me, that is the best gift.
Post # 5
I bought my bridesmaids necklaces to wear to the wedding and VS lip glosses. I think what you suggested sounds fine. I honestly feel lke a gift and a note saying you appreciated them being your bridesaid would be perfect. I honestly dont think its rude to pay for hair or makeup. Maybe if it is done at a certain salon you could give so much on a salon gift card. Like a 50 dollar salon giftcard or something. I think as long as you do something it shows you care and are thinking of them
Post # 6
Personally I don’t think any of the things you mentioned are truly a gift for your bridesmaids, they all relate back to your wedding and mostly benefit you.
Post # 7
FrenchToastnCoffee : The things you mentioned are FOR your wedding. A t-shirt to get ready in is essentially a prop for your photos – no one will ever wear it again, esp. if it says the “friendship est. 2002” thing. Hair/makeup is also FOR your wedding.
You need to get them somethings that’s truly a gift. Everyone always says to act like it’s their birthday – what would you get them then? A gift card to their favorite store, something from a hobby they have, etc.
Post # 8
palebluepetals : good point. That’s why I was wondering if the offer to pay for MU or Hair is rude. It would look better for photos, I’m not going to deny that, but I’m also not asking them to do it. I think 2 out of 3 expressed interest in getting it done anyway, so that’s where that idea came from.
jgfish : I’m literally imagining wearing the tshirt on weekends, at the gym or couch watching TV LOL. I thought about jewelry, but I don’t want them to feel like they have to wear it the day of the wedding either because, then is it really a gift?
socalgirl1689 : I thought about covering the dress, but I gave them free range with choosing the dress as long as the color and length is in the same neighborhood. I don’t even care if the shades are off as long as they work, but these ladies are all looking at dresses in $200-300 range which very much surprised me. I guess I’m the cheapo in the bunch!! I brought it to their attention like uh guys? This is a bit high, and they all said nah! that’s what we were thinking…
Post # 9
whnlz : weatherbug : YIKES. ok, back to the drawing board LOL
Post # 10
The best advice I have seen on this topic is shop like it was their birthday. Doesn’t have to be expensive just something nice you picked out for them based on their interests.
Post # 11
FrenchToastnCoffee : Think about what you would give them for their birthdays if they weren’t in your wedding party. Would one like a book, one like something from Sephora, and one like a gift card for a massage? Give them those things as their thank you gifts + a thoughtful card.
Post # 12
I like the whole gift as if its their bday idea. thanks all!
Post # 13
FrenchToastnCoffee : For my BMs, I gave nice leather passport holders and candles from Henri Bendel, with the colors and scents chosen based on what I thought each girl would prefer for themselves. My gfs like to travel and who doesn’t like candles? Hehe.
I don’t think it’s that bad to give a t-shirt. I ended up buying these bachelorette t-shirts last minute, which have the city of the bachelorette party on it, as souvenirs for the girls, and several of them told me that they still wear the shirts (hanging at home, to bed, whatever).
Post # 14
I gifted each of my bridesmaids a Coach wristlet and a rollerball of their favorite perfume. I am also paying for both their hair and makeup on the day of. I’ve been in so many weddings and never gotten a gift I actually use- in most cases it is a bridesmaid t-shirt or something for the actual wedding. My girls were very appreciative.
Post # 15
The only thing about the t-shirts is that if they’re wearing them while getting ready, it could possibly ruin their hair/makeup when trying to take them off. I would consider a robe or some kind of button down shirt so they don’t have to struggle with trying to take it off while trying to keep their hair and makeup in tact.