BM thank you gifts

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Your heart is in the right place but the things you mentioned are all for your wedding and photo ops.  A real gift of appreciation is something tailored to each individual bridesmaid according to their tastes and interests.

Personalized gifts show you care about the friend not how to make your wedding look better.

Post # 3
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71 posts
Worker bee

I have been a bridesmaid quite a few times.. anyways, in all honesty, i don’t use the “MOH” “Bridesmaids” or wedding dated gifts after the wedding. They end up tossed in the back of a drawer somewhere. The “Friends est. 19XX” would be neat and I would totally wear again. Also, things with my own initials that don’t indicate my role in the wedding. I have been gifted jewlery the bride wanted us to wear for the wedding which was awesome! Also, having hair paid for was a great gift! Another bride gifted us our shoes for the wedding. Bonus was they were flats I wore again and again!

Post # 4
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4031 posts
Honey bee

FrenchToastnCoffee :  I’d skip the thank you gifts and IF possible just buy them the bridesmaid dresses that will be used for your wedding. To me, that is the best gift. 

Post # 5
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98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2020

I bought my bridesmaids necklaces to wear to the wedding and VS lip glosses. I think what you suggested sounds fine. I honestly feel lke a gift and a note saying you appreciated them being your bridesaid would be perfect. I honestly dont think its rude to pay for hair or makeup. Maybe if it is done at a certain salon you could give so much on a salon gift card. Like a 50 dollar salon giftcard or something. I think as long as you do something it shows you care and are thinking of them

Post # 6
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Busy bee

Personally I don’t think any of the things you mentioned are truly a gift for your bridesmaids, they all relate back to your wedding and mostly benefit you. 

Post # 7
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5155 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

FrenchToastnCoffee :  The things you mentioned are FOR your wedding. A t-shirt to get ready in is essentially a prop for your photos – no one will ever wear it again, esp. if it says the “friendship est. 2002” thing. Hair/makeup is also FOR your wedding.

You need to get them somethings that’s truly a gift. Everyone always says to act like it’s their birthday – what would you get them then? A gift card to their favorite store, something from a hobby they have, etc. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

The best advice I have seen on this topic is shop like it was their birthday. Doesn’t have to be expensive just something nice you picked out for them based on their interests. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

FrenchToastnCoffee :  Think about what you would give them for their birthdays if they weren’t in your wedding party. Would one like a book, one like something from Sephora, and one like a gift card for a massage? Give them those things as their thank you gifts + a thoughtful card.

Post # 13
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1463 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

FrenchToastnCoffee :  For my BMs, I gave nice leather passport holders and candles from Henri Bendel, with the colors and scents chosen based on what I thought each girl would prefer for themselves. My gfs like to travel and who doesn’t like candles? Hehe.

I don’t think it’s that bad to give a t-shirt. I ended up buying these bachelorette t-shirts last minute, which have the city of the bachelorette party on it, as souvenirs for the girls, and several of them told me that they still wear the shirts (hanging at home, to bed, whatever).

Post # 14
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293 posts
Helper bee

I gifted each of my bridesmaids a Coach wristlet and a rollerball of their favorite perfume. I am also paying for both their hair and makeup on the day of. I’ve been in so many weddings and never gotten a gift I actually use- in most cases it is a bridesmaid t-shirt or something for the actual wedding. My girls were very appreciative. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee

The only thing about the t-shirts is that if they’re wearing them while getting ready, it could possibly ruin their hair/makeup when trying to take them off. I would consider a robe or some kind of button down shirt so they don’t have to struggle with trying to take it off while trying to keep their hair and makeup in tact. 

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