(Closed) BM wants to wear bridal shoes, am I be unreasonable?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
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CuppaSarah:  Sounds like a touch of OCD going on here, I can sympathise, nothing like something that’s already stressful (WEDDING!) and then other things just make it bigger. Molehills become mountains etc. Sometimes when I am already stressed little things really can get the best of me. Your BM/FSIL, if she’s a good friend should be understanding about this health issue, but it’s hard sometimes, because the term ‘OCD’ gets thrown around an awful lot without having much meaning for most people. I find it really hard when things don’t coordinate (if I think about them), so I get that you’re worried about the shoes. I’m really impressed that you didn’t just tell them which shoes to wear, I know to other people this will sound weird, but I can see how deliberately accommodating you are being, possibly at the risk of your own comfort.

It’s great that you have managed to stop her re. the glitter heels, but maybe now take a step back. Some people might wonder why she is wearing shows that look overly bridal, but you can bet anything you like that even if some very observant people notice, it won’t be for long, because everyone will be focussing on you and your partner. If this doesn’t have to be a ‘thing’ (if it’s not one of those issues you can’t not think about)… don’t waste your energy. Good luck!

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