(Closed) BMs and MOH, how did you pick?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My Matron is my bestie of over 13 years, my Maid is my favorite cousin and my BMs are sisters and close friends.  I didn’t do frenemies.  I don’t have time for wishy washy people driving me nuts.  I have a total on ten ladies on my side.

Post # 4
384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

Not having MOH’s only having 2 BMs (which if you want to be pick one can be maid of honour and the other is matron of honour) my closest sister (i was her BM) and my best friend who i love like a sister. whats best is they get on like a house on fire regardless to age gap 🙂

Sometimes i feel sad (regret seems to strong of a word) that i didnt ask my eldest sister, but hey she didnt ask me to be her Bridesmaid or Best Man cause i was too young and im alot closer to the other.

Post # 5
785 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My Maid/Matron of Honor is my longest friend (of 20yrs!!), then my next 2 best friends are going to be next, then my cousin and then my Future Sister-In-Law 🙂 The hardest was the order of my 3 best friends!

Post # 7
2583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We couldn’t pick, so we didn’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor or a best man 🙂 Just BMs and GMs. I’m so glad we did it that way, it just worked best for us.

Post # 8
554 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m having my only sister as Maid/Matron of Honor & my 18y.o step-daughter for Bridesmaid or Best Man (she’ll be 20 by the time of the wedding).

I do have female friends that I know would do a great job – some I have & some I haven’t been BMs for – but we’re trying to keep things low key, and I wouldn’t ask some & not others. So for me it’s easier to keep my girls family-only.

Post # 9
964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

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@Liss13:  It’s funny cause I read some horror stories on her about Bridesmaid or Best Man but my girls are like the girl Eddie Murphy was suppose to marry in Coming to America.  LOL.  When I was sending out emails about different dresses, the were all responding whatever dress you like.  I looked for the ugliest dress I could find and sent it to them and they all were like it’s your wedding and we’ll wear whatever you like.  lol.  It’s like they were trained for this day.  

I love all my 10 of my girls!

Post # 10
7643 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I have 2 best friends, and I knew the forever friend was going to be it. My other best friend is still oviously very close to me, but not as close, so I chose the one who has stood by me since the day I was born (my mom babysat her when she was pregant with me). The other Bridesmaid or Best Man is my Future Sister-In-Law.

I had it eay because I do only have 2 BFF, so there was no narrowing down thank God.

Post # 11
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

My maid of honor is my best friend from forever (we’ve been friends for almost 30 years!!!! holy cow!!!!), and then my bridesmaids are my close friends.  Two of them I met freshman year of college; the other I met in graduate school.  One (of the two I met in colege) just happens to be my future sister-in-law…=)

Post # 12
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I knew immediately who my two were (friends for over 20 years), and asked Fiance how many he wanted. He said 3-4, so we made one guy an usher- we’re 2 vs. 3 at the altar. I could have asked more, but if would have been tough narrowing down friend #3, and if I asked one SIL, I’d have to invite the other, so I just kept it small. Both are matrons of honor.

Post # 13
185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I have two sisters and they will be co-MOHs.  My remaining bridesmaids: a cousin who I have always been close to, my best friend who I consider a sister to me and have known since 1st grade, and another close friend who I have known since 4th grade.  Dont think anyone can argue with family and best friends since childhood!  They were all no-brainers for me.   

Post # 14
1659 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My four best friends – I’ve known all of them for 10 years+ and they’re the ones that are the most loyal and honest. I have other “good friends” and “old friends” but they haven’t been consistent enough in my life. Also, FH’s two sisters – they both live out of town but they’ve been sooooo amazing welcoming me as part of their family. They’re all “maids of honor” and one really stepped up to do showers, bachelorette, etc. because she was recentlyseries and enjoys these events.

I guess my advice is not to get caught up in numbers and who expects to be asked – just go with your gut and figure out who should be standing next to you rather than sitting down while you say your vows. It was actually really easy for me.

Post # 15
1215 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I have two MOHs, who are my two BFFs. I don’t have any sisters, but my Fiance has two sisters so I made them both BMs. I asked my roommate to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man since I spend a lot of time with her and she hears a lot about wedding plans (oops), and I also asked my FI’s female best friend, since I wanted to make sure she felt included even though she’s not a guy and can’t be a groomsman.

We have 5 groomsmen, and 6 BMs (including 2 MOHs). As far as I’m concerned, it really isn’t a big deal that the numbers aren’t exactly equal! Those are the 9 most important people in our lives (siblings and best friends). As for asking two MOHs – I initially asked one of my BFFs to be Maid/Matron of Honor, and the other one felt sad and left out, so after some quick research here on the Bee, I found out it is pretty normal to have two MOHs, so I asked her and now feel so much better about the situation.

Post # 16
487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We don’t really do MOH’s over here. If we have multiple bridesmaids then usually one of those is the “chief bridesmaid”. I knew all along that this would be my sister in law (brothers wife) as she is helping out soooooo much with the wedding.

She is now my only bridesmaid however, after some long thought. I considered a few other people.

I wouldn’t have minded one of my FSIL’s but it would mean I would have to ask the other and she’s a BIATCH and total control freak.

I considered two other friends, one I knew since school and another I’ve known for many years. Both have stopped talking to me however (one was upset since I got engaged as FH reminds her of the guy she was engaged to that ended their engagement alittle while before. The other I have no idea what went wrong) so it’s not going to happen.

Then another two I considered, one has left the country now and another has so much going on in her life that it would be almost unfair to put her under any sort of pressure like taking a role in a wedding.

So yeah, rather than worry about any other drama (could have asked others but know it would pee some others off…long story) I chose my sister in law as she’s helping so much and nobody can argue that they’re closer to me than she is lol.


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