(Closed) BM's are driving me nuts – vent.

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@Nic01:  Oh no! Sounds messy! Can you get someone else involved to sort those two out? Like a Maid/Matron of Honor or a mutual friends sits them down and tells them to communicate to each other?

Post # 5
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

OK, this makes me feel less crazy for having put together a Bridal Shower Pinterest board, keeping it a secret board, and letting my Maid/Matron of Honor and mom have access to.  I know my wedding is a ways off, but in looking for wedding inspiration I keep finding great Bridal Shower stuff, so I figured what the hey!

ANYWAY, I have had a HECK of a time planning bridal showers.  I was the Maid/Matron of Honor for my sister and Maid/Matron of Honor for my bestfriend.  Let me tell you.  IT. IS. HARD.  I had nothing but problems both times.  I wanted my sister to have a Purple Bridal shower (LIKE SHE WANTED)  Well another bridesmaid thought we should be having a red/valentines day shower since the date was close to 2/14.  I told her that the Bride wanted purple.  ALL she had to do was buy decorations for the table and balloons.  Want to guess what color…..RED.  Yeah, purple tablecloths, purple cake, red balloons and red rose petals. It looked HORRIBLE! (She is divorced now so perhaps I can have do-over some day..LOL)  2nd shower, the other two BM’s would not contribute in any financial way towards the shower, would not help set everything up, but the Bride’s mother insist that I say they were hosting the shower with me. 

Honestly, knowing the color and cake shouldn’t ruin the suprise of the shower for you.  But understand that these girls are not friends, and it seems like they are butting heads.  At this point, if I were you I would step in and mediate a bit or you might not be soo happy with how your Bridal Shower turns out.  Maybe just point them in the right direction when it comes to color and maybe send a few cake pictures that you like to both of them?  That way there is no arguing, because these ideas will be coming from the Bride.  End of story.  If it were ME, I would involve my mom.  She always knows what I would like….I would have her be the go between person….


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