Post # 1
Only ONE of my BMs are coming to my bachelorette, and she’s the one who had to finally get the ball rolling for me to even GET one. She and two friends (one is a recent housemate that I don’t really know well and haven’t lived with for very long) are putting it together for me (the other friend just got a staff infection on her face yesterday and won’t be coming anymore).
Maid/Matron of Honor: just text’d me saying her 7month old cried from teething all night and she can’t make it (and she lives 3 hours away, so I understand, esp considering it’s a late party, starting at 7:30pm)
Bridesmaid or Best Man 1: Sister, text’d me a week ago saying “I’m having too many parties (one bachelorette, one shower) and that she cant’ take another day off work since she is taking so many off for my wedding anyway (2).”
Bridesmaid or Best Man 2: Giving me the bachelorette.
Bridesmaid or Best Man 3: Complained that it’s too far of a drive (one hour) and that she has a 20 minute commute to work the next morning and therefore can’t come.
Bridesmaid or Best Man 4: 4th year med student in SoCal, so I understand that she can’t make it (she’s my FI’s sister, and my Mother-In-Law complained that I should have my bachelorette the night before the wedding so that she can be there).
I’m so incredibly bummed I want to just take a hot shower and cry my eyes out! :'(
I picked these girls to be in my wedding because they’ve been like sisters to me… I had NO idea they would all flake out on me like this!!! I didn’t make them be in my wedding, i ASKED them…. but I sure as heck didn’t ask for THIS! my wedding is in 9 days and I’m SO disheartened!!!!
Post # 3
Wait is your bachelorette party on a weeknight?? (I cant tell, but it kinda sounds like it from the post) If it is, I know it completely sucks and I would be so so bummed too but its very understandable that so many girls are unable to make it. It sounds like this was all thrown together last minute (correct me if I am wrong) On a positive note I think its really great your Bridesmaid or Best Man took the reins and planned one! Usually thats not the role of a Bridesmaid or Best Man so she sounds like an amazing friend. I would go out with the two girls that can make it and I am sure you will have an awesome time!
Maybe you could have a girls night out after the wedding so you can all get together?
Post # 4
Like the other poster mentioned, is it on a weeknight? No offense…but I wouldn’t likely go to a bachelorette party on a weeknight either. Also, about your sister, are you thinking that 2 isn’t a lot of days to take off for your wedding?? How many vacation days does she get a year…that 2 could be days she could have taken off for an actual vacation for herself and not for your wedding.
And…only thing they are obligated to attend is your wedding and the rehearsal. Just go and have fun with those that can make it. I’m sure 9 days from your wedding you have bigger things to worry about than this.
Post # 5
It sucks when it doesn’t work out the way you hoped. Try to have a good time with the people that did come and realize your other friends did have some valid excuses. Seriously what is your Future Mother-In-Law on to think the night before the wedding is a good idea for a bachelorette party? So her kid can be there and you can be all hung over for the b ig day .. um no.
I’m out of work right now and if I didn’t live across the US from you I’d come throw back a few shots with ya…. well hell I can do that here LOL .. have a good night with the girls that do come!!
Post # 6
It sucks, but I do you have any other girlfriends you could invite? Or your BM? Just dont worry about it and have fun!!
Post # 7
Yes, it’s on a weeknight – tonight, actually! I was not the one who decided this. I didn’t want it on a weeknight, but considering my Bridesmaid or Best Man who had to step in and put it together (yes, also last-minute, because my Maid/Matron of Honor was being so wishy-washy about it), and it was the only night that would work for her to be there.
My sister is a barista at starbucks, so works unusual days/hours. Her fiance is also a barista at the SAME sbx, so they have to work opposite shifts/days, making their time together few and far between, so any time away from him is hell-itself for her. She doesn’t get “vacation days” she just has to request time off. 2 isn’t much for her. She’s gotten over a week off before for other events/things, hence my obvious frustration when she makes such a dramatically big deal (multiple conversations/texts) about having to take two whole days away from work.
And you’re right, I am incredibly blessed and excited for the girls to come who are gonna be here. I’m just bummed the girls I had hoped would still be here for me…well, aren’t really. Life happens I guess. I’m sure it’ll be fun when it actually starts, but as for now, I’m stuck cleaning my FI’s house by myself (where the party is gonna be before we head out to the bar, when I was gonna have a fun cleaning party with friends for the afternoon).
blah. just stressed about all the other things, and this just doesn’t help, and bums me out completely.
I’m hoping to have fun though! and be encouraged by my friends who ARE going to be there tonight.
Edit: yes, I have invited a lot of other girlfriends because it’s actually a lingerie party/bachelorette…starting at my FI’s house, and going out afterwards.
Post # 8
Confused….. like PP said… is your party on a weeknight?? or Sunday night??
Post # 9
Ahh… just saw your post! Just go out. Have a blast and enjoy yourself. 🙂