Post # 1
I am having three bridemaids: My Best Friend, My SIL and My Sister.
Now being as these girls all get along really well with me you would think they would all get along really well with each other, but no:
My Future Sister-In-Law and BFF dont like eachother because my Future Sister-In-Law is really upfront and my best friend is easily offended and non-forgiving.
My Sis and BFF do not get along because they had an altercation on Facebook over planking (of all the stupid things to get worked up about).
And my Future Sister-In-Law doesnt think much of my sister because my sister is long term unemployed.
Honestly I cant even go out with more than one of them at a time because they all upset each other. Its horrible. I tried to go out with Future Sister-In-Law, BFF, Fiance and his mate to sushi the other day and Future Sister-In-Law was saying “Its not a good idea, I will say something to upset her” and I am like “WHY THOUGH?!”.
Anyhow I just wanted to whinge because I always make an effort to be pleasent and friendly to everyone in my life and its irritating that no one else makes the same effort for my sake.
Post # 3
grr. That’s really frustrating 🙁 Sorry boo… it especially sucks when ppl hold grudges.
Also, what in the world is planking?!
Post # 4
Planking is this silly internet craze that is generally harmless, but my BFF was getting on her soapbox about it being stupid (it is a bit silly) and my Sis basically told her to pull her head in and get over it. Then BFF deleted my sisters comments and my sis got very offended at being “censored”.
Its been all over the news here in Australia because a 20 year old was doing it on a balcony and fell off and died.
Basically its an internet thing where people lay face down on things – its really odd and not very exciting.
It’s a complete non event and I don’t see why either of them cared enough to have a go at one another!
Post # 5
Are you from the UK? You’re writing is very Brittish -I LOVE IT!
I was in a wedding party once where no one got along, but fortunately we were all grown up enough to know when we needed to just bite out tongues. Plus, we all really loved the bride.
You could talk to each gal on the side and just mention how much you appreciate their support and how you’ve always wondered how wedding parties work when you mix a bunch of people together who are so different. I wouldn’t bring up any specifics like “I know you and X don’t get along, but…” because it will just bring hostility up.
Try planning activities where you can do 1 on 1 things with them. I’m sure come the wedding day things will be fine. It would also be super helpful if you could outline everyone’s role in your wedding party.
One goof we had in the party I was in was that the Maid/Matron of Honor & the brides sister both felt they should be fixing her dress during the ceremony -it was rediculous, one would pull one way, one the other. Plus, Maid/Matron of Honor decided it was her job to get people for pictures -and was wandering around when she was needed most.
I’m sure everyone will come together for you on your big day!
Post # 6
oh, ok… I’ve seen pictures. You’re right – it seems silly that they would argue over something so ridiculous 🙁
Post # 7
that is one of the most bizarre things to fight over, lol