Post # 1
Ok so is anyone else out there having trouble getting their girls to order their dresses? So far only one of my girls have ordered theirs and they need to be ordered now. they only have to pay half of the cost of the dress to order it. i had one girl tell me she needed to wait until she got her tax refund to order the dress so i asked her how much she could afford to pay right now and i offered to pay the rest and she could pay me back when she got her tax refund. she then told me she could afford but didn’t want to just pay for half of it. she wanted to pay for it in full and then said that she would be calling the shop that afternoon. this was yesterday. she never got back to me about any of it. we’re down to the wire and these dresses REALLY need to be ordered now. my other girl is his sister. i feel bad hounding her because she did just have a small car accident. she’s ok but i dont know what her money situation is because of it. since she’s his sister we’ve already offered to pay for her dress. she told us no. that we have enough to worry about paying for and that it wasn’t a problem but that was before her car accident. i sent her another email yesterday (first and foremost i asked if she was ok and if there was anything i could do) telling her that her dress needs to be ordered asap. she’s not that quck at responding to my emails and i dont have her number. my Fiance has her number but hes on the opposite side of the country right now for a short school for work. he’s been having trouble actually getting ahold of her on the phone. im freaking out and dont know what to do! my girls are gonna look all off if any of them arent’ able to order their dress in time and have to wear something else. i dont want to be a bridezilla but i want them to get these dresses ordered on time.
Post # 3
anyone out there have any advice at all?
Post # 4
Sorry, the formatting must have been lost on your post, because it’s all just one big paragraph. Kind of overwhelming, but I read it twice and I think I understand.
Both of your bridesmaids have not ordered their dresses, correct? And the store is saying that they need to order them now or they will not be ready in time for the wedding?
Did they help pick the dresses? Is it possible that they don’t like them, or aren’t comfortable with the price range? That would certainly be a reason to drag their feet on putting a payment down.
Do you have other bridesmaids who have already purchased the dress? Or just these two? You could always reconsider that particular dress; maybe getting something off a rack in a department store (Nordstroms, Macys, etc.) would be an easier option for these girls, since they seem to not want to order something. Maybe if they can put it on, pay for it and walk out of the store with it, that will be easier for them!
Post # 5
sorry about the one big paragraph. i have 3 bridesmaides. one has bought her dress already.
all three of them seemed genuinely excited about the dress i had picked out for them. i know that one girl definitly likes it because she’s the type that would tell me she didn’t. she’s the one who has already bought her dress.
when i gave them all the information on the dress (where to buy, cost, etc) i told all of them that if the cost of the dress was too high for them to let me know and i would help them out with it. the total cost of the dress i picked out is $176. i told them that if that was going to be too much i understood if they didn’t want to remain a bridesmaid and i offered to pay for half of it but all three of them told me that they didn’t need my help. they could all afford it.
as far as picking a dress at nordstroms or something like that….i’ll be honest. when i saw the dress i picked out, i fell in love with it. had any of them told my they did not like the dress or anything like that i would have worked with them so that they wouldn’t have to buy something they didn’t like. i told them to let me know if they didn’t like the dress and none did. i know people hate spending a good amount of money on something they dont like. i told my girls to be honest with me. they’ve got free reign when it comes to their hair, makeup, and jewelry and as long as they have black shoes im happy.
since my original post is a little confusing and i didn’t pay attention to how i typed it, heres another issue im a little confused on.
one of the girls who has not purchased her dress sent me an email saying she had not ordered her dress because she needed her tax return to do so. i emailed her back saying that the dress needed to be ordered asap so that it would get there in time for the wedding. the girls only need to pay half of the total cost of the dress to order it which is $86. i asked her how much she could swing right now and that i would cover the rest so that we could get the dress ordered. she could either pay me back when her taxes came in or we could just call it good and none of my other girls would know anything about it.
she emailed me back saying that she could afford but she doesn’t want to just pay for half. she wants to pay for the whole thing. she also said that she could afford and would call the shop and talk to the lady that afternoon. this was 2 days ago. i havent heard back from her yet. what struck me as odd was when she told me she needed to wait until her tax return came back but then turned around and said she could afford and would be calling the lady that day.
the other girl who has not ordered her dress was in a small car accident about a week ago. shes ok but i havent heard from her since the day after it happened. ive sent her a couple emails and first and foremost i asked if she was ok and if there was anything i could do to help. i also let her know that if money is tight because of her car accident that i would pay for her dress. i also told her that the dress needs to be ordered asap so that it comes in on time. i let her know that if she knows her measurements to just let me know and i could take care of it for her so she doesn’t have that extra worry right now on top of everything else. i still havent heard anything back from her.
ive been trying not to constantly hound them to get this done. i dont want to burn my girls out on the whole thing. i want them to be as excited as i am on the big day. im getting really worried that these two girls arent going to get their dresses ordered in time. it would be unfair to the girl who has already ordered her dress if i changed the dress and made her buy another one. if worse comes to worse, the girl who has already ordered her dress is my Maid/Matron of Honor so she can still wear her dress if the other 2 girls wear a diff one. would that look odd?