(Closed) BM’s havent ordered dresses yet…is that ok?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

my wedding is september 4th. my brides ordered their dresses three weeks ago and were given a shipping date of August 2nd…. so about a month for alterations – not a whole lot of time for troubleshooting if something goes wrong with the dresses.

If they are buying off the rack – and not from a bridal store that has to be ordered altered etc, then i dont see a problem (in that there are TONS of LBD’s out there that i am sure no matter what they can find something)

BUT – if they are ordering with a shop or online bridal store, they need to get their stuff in ASAP. pretty much if they order now they are looking at the beginning of september depending on the dress (mine are simple dresses, if they are elaborate… wellll)

but you gave them their deadline of the end of June. i would let them know what i said above – because if they are planning on ordering something they might not know how long it takse to usually get dresses back.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m dealing with the same exact thing. My wedding is 10/17/10 & My bridesmaids have had the choices to pick their dresses since Febuary-ish. Only ONE of the 4 has picked out & ordered her dress. I just told the other 3 that they need to pick out a dress and order it by the middle of June at the latest. I did not tell them yet that if they do not pick out a dress by then, I will be picking their dress. (I’ll tell them at the beginning of June) I’m meeting with one today (pregnant & has been sick) to hang out so we’ll probably talk about her dress choices then.

I wanted to be nice & let them choose their dresses! But if they want to be lazy about it, then they’ll have to settle with what I choose for them! 🙂

I’m not too worried about it since i have those “back-up” plans. I know when the lastest is that they need to order their dresses so..

yeah, good luck lol

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My wedding is October 23, 2010 and my last two BMs just ordered their dresses today. I’m not worried at all as we were assured our dress company (Jim Hjelm) would only take three months to deliver the dresses, which will still leave time for alterations. I will add though that today (May 15) was the deadline I gave them for ordering.

A few of my girls also put off their dress ordering (I sent them the info in early February and, as I said, two of them just ordered today and another just ordered last weekend). I was getting really frustrated so I finally just sent a humourous, but firm email (this was the third email I’d sent asking them to order and the second deadline I’d set) that said, “Dresses must be ordered by no later than May 15. For reals. This is to ensure that the dresses come in with time left for alterations (the dresses should take ~3 months to arrive, so if ordered by May 15 will arrive by mid-August). And also to ensure that I don’t have a heart attack.” It totally worked.

Good luck!

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

my sis’s is 10-10-10 also, she hasn’t even picked a dress, so i think your good

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My wedding is in July, and since I’m an indecisive bride, we just rush ordered them a few weeks ago.  They won’t even get here until June 1.  While I applaud your organizational skills, I think you are going to drive yourself bananas if you are this crazed over something that realistically, you don’t need to stress over until at least August.  Let up on your ladies a little- I really think that it’s unreasonable to get upset with your BMs at this point.  Now, in August?  You can let it fly on them all you want 🙂

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Well, I think it really all depends on where they are getting the dresses and how long they will take.  Having them by June seems a little early to me, but I am totally type B.  If I were given a deadline I would probably wait until just before to order my dress too.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My order just went in last week and I have the same date. They will arrive in late August. So there is time!

Get on those girls! It might be helpful to ask each one what their status is on their dress. By asking you aren’t seeming crazy, just an organized bride. If they haven’t done anything, maybe ask if they want to check out dresses with you and they will get the hint.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Bridesmaids are really falling off these days…LOL!

I found my bridesmaids 59.99 convertible dresses in Black…for that price and I basically sent out the marching orders to buy themlast week… So I think an email basically telling them it is time to order is fine, they will be better off for it and won’t have to rush at the last minute. So just send a short witty email and tell them you have heard some horror stories on various wedding boards of bridesmaids not getting their dress on time. Oh the Horror!!!Surprised

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

depending on the designer of the dress you picked out it could take up to 16 weeks…so just keep that in mind…most will only take 10-12 but some will take longer… 🙂

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If you gave them until the end of June, considering that it’s the middle of May, I think you should step back and just let them do their own thing.  If the criteria was black jersey knit, then I don’t think they need to be worried about finding a dress in a bridal shop, fittings, etc.  There’s definitely more flexibility there.

I’m getting married in September and my girls are supposed to get their dress from Jcrew.  I’m giving them until end of July until I get worried. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think it is too late to get them in (without a rush fee) by the end of June.  Is there a specific reason why they need them 3+ months early?

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

 My SIL wedding is in 09/2010 and we still dont have Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. i am getting a little worried

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

If they are getting black dresses then I wouldn’t worry to much. They don’t need to order their gowns, they can probably just get them at the mall where the stores have them in stock.

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