(Closed) BM’s making me feel bad about lack of wedding shower guests

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
2416 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think this number is totally normal, and quite honestly, I find the showers where 75-150 people are totally stupid.

My best friend is having her bridal shower next week and there will be about 15-18 people there…I think that’s a great number! Don’t stress and definitely don’t let people make you feel bad!

Post # 5
46408 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If the restaurant has a minimum of 20, you can all just agree that you will fund the minumum # of guests that the restaurant charges.

Or, you can work together to find another venue.

Post # 7
2697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Bostongrl25:  I had a similar disagreement with my mom. She is used to larger showers, I had to show her websites that say 5-20 is normal.

However, I wouldn’t balk at a few extra of my mom’s friends. (Ok, I lie, I did at first, because I barely knew them.) But I’m not throwing the shower, she’s throwing it for me, and if it means a lot to her to have her friends there (that have invited her to all of their children’s showers) then she can go for it.

She only ended up inviting her closeset friend, who couldn’t make it anyway.

Post # 8
2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

the problem with only giving her a bare mininum of 20 guests what happens if people dont come??/

i gave my moh a list and 40 invites(found a super cute one on clearance at target) only the bridal party(4 ) and 2 of the invited have said yes they are coming.. moh has gotten like 10 “nos”


we are having it at our church….

Post # 10
326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We’re having a 75ish person wedding….. we also have a lot of friends out of town.  I think we’ll end up with around 20 people at the shower… and we invited like 25 or something.  Don’t feel bad!  A friend of mine had a 130 person wedding and she only had like 12 people at her shower.  Another friend had an 80 person wedding and she told me today she had 18 at her shower.  I agree….. I did not invite some of my parents’ friends that I’m not really close to…. and I also didn’t invite wives or girlfriends of my fiance’s friends – it felt uncomfortable – i just stuck to my female family members, friends, and mom’s friends who I have a good relationship with.  Don’t let them feel bad – just keep searching for new venues or see if they can just let you keep the number you have if you can meet their minimum $ requirement. 

Post # 11
2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

mines next weekend… so spring/summer are a busy season.(also the fact moh just sent invites out last week probably didnt help get “yes”s

Post # 12
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would help them find another venue. None of them can have it at their place? Or you could find a park..?

Post # 13
1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Do what makes you comfortable and happy. Dont listen to anyone else. Im having a huge shower…but thats cause I come from I large family and so does Fiance not to mention all our friends.

Post # 14
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Inviting randoms is out of the question unless you’re prepared to invite them to the wedding. I’m sorry you’re in this position!

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